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09 Jan 2011, 8:42 pm

In my earlier post " Do you want a cure for Asperger?" - looks like quite a number of Aspies are happy being with this symptom. Good for them because I think they can see their life doesn't need any help. They are proud that they are given this special ability that Einstein and Bill Gates are also in. But for me, I've been having a long and frustrating journey all my life, maybe because I didn't even know that it's really a syndrome much like autism. At least you all are lucky to know it's Asperger so early in life.



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09 Jan 2011, 10:05 pm

If you're just interested in polling, there are a dozen previous threads on this very question.

Albert Einstien and Bill Gates are SPECULATED to have AS. Neither has ever received an official diagnosis.

Here's a news article quote from friends describing the kid who just shot the Arizona Congressional Representative:

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Several people who knew Loughner at community college said he did not seem especially political, but was socially awkward. He laughed at the wrong things, made inappropriate comments. Most students sat away from him in class.

"He made a lot of the people really uncomfortable, especially the girls in the class," said Steven Cates, who attended an advanced poetry writing class with Loughner at Pima Community College last spring. Though he struck up a superficial friendship with Loughner, he said a group of other students went to the teacher to complain about Loughner at one point.

When other students read their poems, Coorough said Loughner "would laugh at things that you wouldn't laugh at." After one woman read a poem about abortion, "he was turning all shades of red and laughing," and said, "Wow, she's just like a terrorist, she killed a baby," Coorough said.

"He appeared to be to me an emotional cripple or an emotional child," Coorough said. "He lacked compassion, he lacked understanding and he lacked an ability to connect."

Cates said Loughner "didn't have the social intelligence, but he definitely had the academic intelligence."


Guess what the media will be saying about him next week?


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09 Jan 2011, 10:15 pm

I have settled with being me.

I know for a large part who I am now, what I want to achieve, what my abilities and limitations are at the present moment, what my pitfalls are, etc.

I am happy.

Pride blinds, so I don't do that.


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09 Jan 2011, 10:19 pm

Avengilante wrote:
If you're just interested in polling, there are a dozen previous threads on this very question.

Albert Einstien and Bill Gates are SPECULATED to have AS. Neither has ever received an official diagnosis.

Here's a news article quote from friends describing the kid who just shot the Arizona Congressional Representative:

The Associated Press wrote:
Several people who knew Loughner at community college said he did not seem especially political, but was socially awkward. He laughed at the wrong things, made inappropriate comments. Most students sat away from him in class.

"He made a lot of the people really uncomfortable, especially the girls in the class," said Steven Cates, who attended an advanced poetry writing class with Loughner at Pima Community College last spring. Though he struck up a superficial friendship with Loughner, he said a group of other students went to the teacher to complain about Loughner at one point.

When other students read their poems, Coorough said Loughner "would laugh at things that you wouldn't laugh at." After one woman read a poem about abortion, "he was turning all shades of red and laughing," and said, "Wow, she's just like a terrorist, she killed a baby," Coorough said.

"He appeared to be to me an emotional cripple or an emotional child," Coorough said. "He lacked compassion, he lacked understanding and he lacked an ability to connect."

Cates said Loughner "didn't have the social intelligence, but he definitely had the academic intelligence."


Guess what the media will be saying about him next week?


I guess it'll be Autism/Aspergers or psychopathy.

I am going for psychopathy because of the superficial charm and lack/absence of empathy.


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09 Jan 2011, 10:30 pm

Are you happy or proud that you have Asperger?

No more"proud" of the fact that I understand why 2 and 2 equates to four.

A cure for aspergers is like curing a tree from being wood.



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10 Jan 2011, 10:07 am

I'm quite happy that I have it, yes.



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10 Jan 2011, 10:20 am

It's no big deal too me, far too much is read into it anyway. Doesn't effect me from living my life the way I want to.

If people don't understand me, it's their problem, not mine. They laugh because I am different, I laugh because they are all the same.


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10 Jan 2011, 2:26 pm

Are you happy or proud that you have Asperger?

Look, I get that people have come to terms with who they are and made peace with that. I am very supportive of others gaining that comfort and confidence. I think it's great that there are people who've answered so positively in this thread that they enjoy having AS.

My answer is a big NO. I view it as a disability that can stigmatize me. I have told very few real life people, including those who I keep contact with over the internet who know who I am. I've come out just enough so the people who also have AS or have children with AS pick up on the hint and we can connect on that level. For a couple friends, we haven't even come out and said the obvious. It just is what it is and we know. I've also come out as an aspie to help my son understand himself and his teacher to understand him. That's all gone well. I may be completely off base. Maybe if I shouted from the rooftops for everyone in my life to hear that I have AS, maybe none of them would treat me different, maybe they'd all be supportive and understanding... but... I've seen the reactions of some of these people to hearing someone's child has autism and I just don't want those kinds of looks tossed in my direction.

I hate being misunderstood as shy, I hate being misunderstood as snobby or slow or lazy, but I'll take those over being pitied.

I don't expect a lot of you to agree with me. In fact, I think it's a good thing if the majority of you disagree with me. Right now, my personal comfort concerning being an aspie puts me in the closet for the most part.



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10 Jan 2011, 3:16 pm

Not really its just how it is, I suppose.....I don't want to be cured of it, but It does kind of suck that it seems to clash with society thus making it hard to get anywhere or function in the society I am forced to live in. Though as a rule I have more of an issue with society in general then I do with the fact that i dont function well in it.



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10 Jan 2011, 7:58 pm

I feel very privileged to be on the autism spectum. If it wasn't for my deficits I'd be an uninteresting happy-go-lucky hedonists who'd die unhappy and nostalgic. Instead I get to live a life less lived and experience and understand things in the world that the majority of people will never even be aware of.


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10 Jan 2011, 8:07 pm

Am I happy to have something that makes my life difficult? Not particularly.
Am I happy to know what makes me different, to have an understanding of how I relate to the world, and do I enjoy the gifts that I have? Yes, of course.


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Your neurodiverse (Aspie) score: 165 of 200
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You are very likely neurodiverse (Aspie)


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11 Jan 2011, 12:15 am

quesonrias wrote:
Am I happy to have something that makes my life difficult? Not particularly.
Am I happy to know what makes me different, to have an understanding of how I relate to the world, and do I enjoy the gifts that I have? Yes, of course.


That, right there.