saddened by how things have turned out

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I have a really close friend who is also aspie and her mum and dad live nearby where we share a house. I come from a different background to her I grew up in a good part of town and my friend grew up in a less well off area where we currently live. I am an outgoing kind of aspie talkative etc. Anyway my friend Chloe's mum has been increasingly making it very clear that she doesn't like me or finds my personality difficult to handle she says things to chloe like "come on your own", "come on your own I am doing vacuuming" stuff like that. I managed to get out of Chloe last night that her mum had actually said something apparently along the lines that she finds me too full on and annoying. I was already hurt but felt more so when I found this out although I already had a suspicion. I am outspoken that I disagree with her over the top stance on safety because at 23 Chloe is old enough to make decisions for herself on safety and given Chloe's anxiety disorder all the talk her mum says to her only exacerbates that. However I have never personally critisised her mum in any way in fact I quite liked her until she started acting how she has lately. I am even more hurt because Chloe isn't exactly normal either and my family are accepting and understanding and invite her into their house. Also I have done so much to help Chloe I helped her get a licence, the disability pension etc and I would have thought her mum would have been pleased about that but she seems anything but.

I am even more saddened now because Chloe tried her very best today to explain my background and reasons why I can be "full on" sometimes. However she was basically told that I have "ruined her life", "causes upset by being full on" and that her mum didn't seem to care at all about the fact I have been abused. Chloe has said herself I have no control over her and that I suggest but that at the end of the day it is her choice what she does with her life. Besides I would never tell her what do to at 23 chloe is an adult who can make her own choices.

Try having a one on one with the mother. Apologize regardless of whether you think you did anything or not. Try and come to an understanding of eachother. However, learn some control. Her mum is older than 23, she can also decide what she wants for herself. If she wants to be overprotective, that's her choice. Chloe is her daughter after all.

I apologize if I came off as defending the mother, but that's my opinion.