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13 Mar 2011, 1:58 pm
Whenever my parents joke about or refer to me dating/ending up with someone I have one of three reactions depending on who they are referring too:
1. I get gross and usually say something along the lines of "EWW" (especially if I don't know the person at all or well or find them repulsive) 
(I already know this one is pretty immature) but I do this to cover up for the other 2...
2. I try every time to reemphasize that I will NEVER be interested in anyone in the way they are referring to b/c I am asexual. I try to do this calmly but I know I sound pissed off b/c I have to explain this every time I go home at some point.
3. Every time they, or someone else suggests I get into a relationship with someone I do have a close emotional bond with I feel like 
(and usually do when I get back to school/my room, etc.)
My mom is convinced things will change when I find my "Prince Charming"
... What am I 4?! !! 
*FACEPALM*
13 Mar 2011, 3:41 pm
Peko wrote:
Whenever my parents joke about or refer to me dating/ending up with someone I have one of three reactions depending on who they are referring too:
1. I get gross and usually say something along the lines of "EWW" (especially if I don't know the person at all or well or find them repulsive) (I already know this one is pretty immature) but I do this to cover up for the other 2...
2. I try every time to reemphasize that I will NEVER be interested in anyone in the way they are referring to b/c I am asexual. I try to do this calmly but I know I sound pissed off b/c I have to explain this every time I go home at some point.
3. Every time they, or someone else suggests I get into a relationship with someone I do have a close emotional bond with I feel like (and usually do when I get back to school/my room, etc.)
My mom is convinced things will change when I find my "Prince Charming"
... What am I 4?! !! *FACEPALM*
1. I get gross and usually say something along the lines of "EWW" (especially if I don't know the person at all or well or find them repulsive)
(I already know this one is pretty immature) but I do this to cover up for the other 2...2. I try every time to reemphasize that I will NEVER be interested in anyone in the way they are referring to b/c I am asexual. I try to do this calmly but I know I sound pissed off b/c I have to explain this every time I go home at some point.
3. Every time they, or someone else suggests I get into a relationship with someone I do have a close emotional bond with I feel like
(and usually do when I get back to school/my room, etc.)My mom is convinced things will change when I find my "Prince Charming"
... What am I 4?! !! *FACEPALM* My sister has a tendency to suggest men to me who do kind of make me gag.I have no idea where she gets the impression that these men are my type...well I do, but she's wrong.
So no, it's not a sign of immaturity.
Your mother, however, may be right, in that one day you might find someone who you are attracted to. I theorize most asexual individuals aren't completely asexual, but rely far more on biological mechanisms, than social mechanism to find someone attractive.
In other words, there might be someone out there with the right phermones, physical characteristics and personality that trip your attraction circuits and you might find yourself with a massive crush on them.
13 Mar 2011, 4:30 pm
Chronos wrote:
Peko wrote:
Whenever my parents joke about or refer to me dating/ending up with someone I have one of three reactions depending on who they are referring too:
1. I get gross and usually say something along the lines of "EWW" (especially if I don't know the person at all or well or find them repulsive) (I already know this one is pretty immature) but I do this to cover up for the other 2...
2. I try every time to reemphasize that I will NEVER be interested in anyone in the way they are referring to b/c I am asexual. I try to do this calmly but I know I sound pissed off b/c I have to explain this every time I go home at some point.
3. Every time they, or someone else suggests I get into a relationship with someone I do have a close emotional bond with I feel like (and usually do when I get back to school/my room, etc.)
My mom is convinced things will change when I find my "Prince Charming"
... What am I 4?! !! *FACEPALM*
1. I get gross and usually say something along the lines of "EWW" (especially if I don't know the person at all or well or find them repulsive)
(I already know this one is pretty immature) but I do this to cover up for the other 2...2. I try every time to reemphasize that I will NEVER be interested in anyone in the way they are referring to b/c I am asexual. I try to do this calmly but I know I sound pissed off b/c I have to explain this every time I go home at some point.
3. Every time they, or someone else suggests I get into a relationship with someone I do have a close emotional bond with I feel like
(and usually do when I get back to school/my room, etc.)My mom is convinced things will change when I find my "Prince Charming"
... What am I 4?! !! *FACEPALM* My sister has a tendency to suggest men to me who do kind of make me gag.I have no idea where she gets the impression that these men are my type...well I do, but she's wrong.
So no, it's not a sign of immaturity.
Your mother, however, may be right, in that one day you might find someone who you are attracted to. I theorize most asexual individuals aren't completely asexual, but rely far more on biological mechanisms, than social mechanism to find someone attractive.
In other words, there might be someone out there with the right phermones, physical characteristics and personality that trip your attraction circuits and you might find yourself with a massive crush on them.
I can't agree with that b/c their is not a single physical characteristic that I am drawn too. Its the person's personality/demeanor I am drawn too. Plus, even if I'd like a person's looks/smell, it wouldn't be sexual b/c that would imply that I'd want them to touch me or I'd want to touch them. I've probably only gotten the urge to touch someone outside my family twice and that was b/c it was a friend who was doing something adorable or their hair was shiny. I've only ever had 1-3 friends who could touch me (each only did this once) without me wanting to rip my own skin off or break down weeping.
Also, asexuality is about the difference between sexual & romantic attraction not biological vs. social mechanisms. At the end of the day, it wouldn't matter if I was so drawn to someone's personality that I was/am crushing on them, I wouldn't pursue it, period.
