So disappointed...

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I was so excited this morning to get a job interview scheduled for tomorrow. Then I looked up where the company was located and I found that it was 24 miles from home, much farther than indicated on their Careerbuilder posting. I had to call back to the employer and cancel the interview because of how far they were from me and informed them that the address on their job posting was inaccurate. It was a temp agency so they took my information down and asked how far I was willing to go. I told them less than 15 miles. f**k. Almost nothing is within 15 miles of my house. I'm going to be stuck here forever just because I can't drive and my mom doesn't want to help me. She wants me trapped here forever.

Maybe I should just apply for disability and give up the dream of being employed because clearly I'm not meant to be. I should have never have bothered going to college. Yeah, I have a degree but now I don't have any experience required for jobs and no way of getting to them without my mother getting me to and fro. The public transportation system here sucks.

*sigh* I'm just so upset with myself. I cried about it, mom and brother yelled at me for it. How hard is it to give a hug to someone who's crying? No? Just make her feel worse by saying she's crying about nothing. THANKS.

Why can't you drive? If it's because you haven't learned yet because of sensory or anxiety issues, maybe you should start getting yourself used to it. When you learn to drive, you will be able to have a better career.

Sounds like driving is the way out of your current situation. It took me 3 attempts to pass the test but it was worth it. Much greater freedom and all that goes with it. Try gritting your teeth and going for it, regardless of what your family think. They sound like a***holes tbh, another reason not to let them get to you.

Hold on a minute... I thought you can drive as long as you are acquainted with a parent?

1. You need to consider work a little farther off.

2. Advertise for a ride to work--"Going my way? Have job at XYZ Company, 123 main street, Home Town. Work from 9-5 weekdays. Will pay for gas."

3. Ever hear of bikes and mopeds?

I did temping most of my life, and rode my bike to at least two of my assignments. For at least one period I did it because my car was sick, and the job was just the next town over. l did have to cross a busy highway on the way to and from work, but there was an intersection. Another time the assignment was only a couple of blocks from home, so why waste gas?

So either advertise for a ride, or get healthy to get to work--ride a bike. Yes, I know PA has hills. I lived at several addresses in PA over the years. It is lovely, but most of it is hilly. I now live in western NY state, which is also lovely and hilly.

Hope this helps.

Is there no public transport?

To me it seems odd to look at mileage rather than how many buses/trains and time to travel to work.

This may be off the mark, but have you considered a small loan and an intensive driver ed course. Here you can get on the road on a motorbike after a weekend course. Then you could work and pay off the small loan. Most places you can buy small motorbikes for under $500.

OK, I did this. Note this is my experience in the UK.

As I was living in the sticks and the work I was offered was in London I bought a place closer to it and moved there, not knowing anyone in that town. Nerve-wracking? Oh, yeah! Worth it! Definitely! The mortgage was a nightmare at first and there were times when I thought I would lose the place, but I kept going and it worked. This was with permanent work.

After a while I went contracting, basically doing temp stuff.

You are starting out getting temp placements, so I'm not saying you need to buy a place but if it's possible to rent somewhere close to the work then that must be an option. This will depend on how long is your placement, any guarantees are usually thin on the ground. If you're short of cash then try looking for a flat-share.

Also people are often advertising spare rooms in the house for a reasonable amount. I think this is probably your best bet when you're starting out. If they insist on up-front cash - and who wouldn't? - then try to get a sub from the agency that is placing you; if you don't ask they will definitely not say "ok". In fact, try to get a sub from anyone you can trust.

All of the above I have done over the years and it was well worth it. I think you currently have the mindset that you MUST travel to work, and I think the way your family speak to you has reinforced this . This is not the case, believe me. Grit your teeth, take a deep breath and go for it!