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16 Mar 2011, 8:38 am

I feel so lost some times, like a little kid in and adult world. Not that I was that happy when I was a kid either but as least nothing much was expected of me.

I'm a very sensetive and get v uspet easily and have been told I look at things in very black and white terms, which leads to a lot of my probs. I hate my routine being distubed and have no freinds, even though I would like some but I've found in the past that its just to much effort. Also an obsseivie worrier and often but myslef through hell for my mistakes.

I am seeing an aspergers specilaist and a pyhcologlist in the next few weeks to find out whats wrong with me.

I feel so scared, neveruos and lost. Am worried they are going to tell me i'm just a mad loser.


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16 Mar 2011, 8:40 am

it's their job to deal with issues like yours.
they won't think you're mad, or a loser.
it's difficult, but be brave and it'll help you.



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16 Mar 2011, 8:59 am

I can relate to this a lot.



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16 Mar 2011, 9:12 am

MXH wrote:
I can relate to this a lot.


Thank you at least I know I'm not alone.

I think I am probably on the Authistic speturm at least but am just so frightented by it all. I have touble understand me feelings and epxressing them to my closese family. How am I gona manage to talk to total strangers??


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16 Mar 2011, 10:30 am

Jacs wrote:
I feel so lost some times, like a little kid in and adult world. Not that I was that happy when I was a kid either but as least nothing much was expected of me.

I'm a very sensetive and get v uspet easily and have been told I look at things in very black and white terms, which leads to a lot of my probs. I hate my routine being distubed and have no freinds, even though I would like some but I've found in the past that its just to much effort. Also an obsseivie worrier and often but myslef through hell for my mistakes.

I am seeing an aspergers specilaist and a pyhcologlist in the next few weeks to find out whats wrong with me.

I feel so scared, neveruos and lost. Am worried they are going to tell me i'm just a mad loser.


Story of my life. You're not alone for what it's worth.


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16 Mar 2011, 12:49 pm

hyperbole wrote:
Jacs wrote:
I feel so lost some times, like a little kid in and adult world. Not that I was that happy when I was a kid either but as least nothing much was expected of me.

I'm a very sensetive and get v uspet easily and have been told I look at things in very black and white terms, which leads to a lot of my probs. I hate my routine being distubed and have no freinds, even though I would like some but I've found in the past that its just to much effort. Also an obsseivie worrier and often but myslef through hell for my mistakes.

I am seeing an aspergers specilaist and a pyhcologlist in the next few weeks to find out whats wrong with me.

I feel so scared, neveruos and lost. Am worried they are going to tell me i'm just a mad loser.


Story of my life. You're not alone for what it's worth.


Ditto for me too : (



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17 Mar 2011, 10:59 am

I am getting so worked up about the whole thing now that I cry at least a few time and day.

I don't want to feel so alone and lonely and do want help, but don't want feel like thise either.

So very frightned and scared. :( :(


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17 Mar 2011, 11:01 am

oh no :(
crying is better than keeping it all in though.

do you have anyone you can talk to?
(sorry if you mentioned earlier on in the thread already)



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17 Mar 2011, 11:20 am

emlion wrote:
oh no :(
crying is better than keeping it all in though.

do you have anyone you can talk to?
(sorry if you mentioned earlier on in the thread already)


My Parents know I'm scared but don't really undertsnad.

If I do have Aspergers, it will mean at least I know whats wrong with me, although I know it won't solve my problems.
If I don't I am terrifed of what they will say is wrong with me cause I know something is.

I just want to be normal. I feel like all my dream of a normal job and family have been shattered as, what ever is wrong, I will nevere be able to cope. :( :( :(


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17 Mar 2011, 11:23 am

how old are you?



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17 Mar 2011, 11:27 am

in my 30' s and Far , far to old to still be unmarried and living at home


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17 Mar 2011, 11:28 am

i was under the impression you were a lot younger.

i don't have any advice though, because i cope badly at the best of times with things.
i cry and scream and act like a child when things get too much.



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17 Mar 2011, 11:30 am

I feel like a frightened kid at the mo.

Everyone always does think i'm younger, probably cause I get so upset at stuff.


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17 Mar 2011, 11:31 am

If you get a diagnosis, you can find someone to help you learn to cope, learn social skills, learn how to do the things you want. You might not do them in the standard NT fashion, but there's no reason you can't have a job and a family.

We all fear the unknown, ut there is some empowerment in "knowing". You can make a plan and move ahead.


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17 Mar 2011, 1:19 pm

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If you get a diagnosis, you can find someone to help you learn to cope, learn social skills, learn how to do the things you want. You might not do them in the standard NT fashion, but there's no reason you can't have a job and a family.

We all fear the unknown, ut there is some empowerment in "knowing". You can make a plan and move ahead.


Thanks, I'm just an idoit i guess.


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17 Mar 2011, 3:54 pm

Jacs wrote:
hyperbole wrote:
If you get a diagnosis, you can find someone to help you learn to cope, learn social skills, learn how to do the things you want. You might not do them in the standard NT fashion, but there's no reason you can't have a job and a family.

We all fear the unknown, ut there is some empowerment in "knowing". You can make a plan and move ahead.


Thanks, I'm just an idoit i guess.


You're not an idiot at all. It's hard to be up in the air, you don't have the slightest idea of where to start sorting things out until you know what is happening. It happens to everyone.


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