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Sowlowsolo
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12 Mar 2011, 7:09 am

I want to know why I don't belong here - on this planet at all. Even on sites like this I still feel alone - I have no connection.
It's 12:15pm Saturday 12th March - I'm still in bed. If I had a purpose - I'd get up. I don't have a purpose. =[



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12 Mar 2011, 7:50 am

i feel quite alone here too, i don't really know why or how to change it.i post a lot, but get the feeling i'm not very noticeable to other.
in fact i don't think i have anything helpful to say atm :( sorry.


what do you enjoy doing? for me, it's music & a few other things. this at least gives me something to 'hold onto' for the future.



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12 Mar 2011, 8:12 am

There are a lot more readers than posters. Why not try posting more. I notice most things.



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12 Mar 2011, 9:13 pm

I know the feeling. I used to feel like my only purpose was the paycheck that supported my family. Now that I've lost my job I'm feeling alot like you... I don't even have that anymore. In my case, I realize it is most likely depression talking but what can you do about that when you have no health care?

The few PM's I've sent have all gone unanswered as well, the few posts I have made receive no or very few replies. it's hard to even think up a topic to post about when you're depressed.

Just want you to know you're not alone.



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12 Mar 2011, 9:26 pm

So I have nothing helpful to say, except that yeah, I know what it feels like to be unseen or unwanted or ignored. I guess we all do. I'm not much fun to talk to so I can't really help in the way of company :(



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12 Mar 2011, 9:59 pm

I feel the same. It feels wherever I go everyone else feels this sense of community but I don't feel it at all. :(



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12 Mar 2011, 10:11 pm

So ,the five of us need to stop bitching and get together and TALK about something! (Jack is also invited but he has no touble in the posting arena...)



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12 Mar 2011, 10:47 pm

Bitching + loneliness talk equals kicking oneself when you are down~ I don't really know how to talk to people though =_=



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12 Mar 2011, 10:51 pm

Well, you seem to be doing just fine so far... :)



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12 Mar 2011, 10:57 pm

I wonder how long I can keep this up~

I can't always talk like a kicked puppy. I can be pretty happy, it's just that I only ever post in the haven when I'm extremely depressed or angry. Until today I only ever posted in the Haven. Today I posted in the general discussion forum, hopefully one day I'll get to meet people in the non-aspie-related parts of the site~



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12 Mar 2011, 11:35 pm

Well, it's not a contest. We all just do what we can. Something will eventually catch your attention and hopefully inspire you chat away. When you feel like a kicked puppy it's not easy to talk about much else. If you have any special interests thats always a good place to start.

And I probably need to take my own advice... :roll:



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13 Mar 2011, 1:41 am

Ahaha~ well since all my topics since joining have been all about how much I hate myself, I can't really expect to make friends U^_^
I'm still not sure how to start, but eventually I'll start moving out to the off-topic discussions. I started out just talking about aspergers and angst, now I'm trying to take out the angst part~ (at least until the next meltdown)
Bah, I give good advice to my friends but I can't help myself. Taking my own advice is probably the last thing I end up doing U=_=
Anyway, I guess we're going way off-topic XD



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13 Mar 2011, 12:18 pm

Sowlowsolo - you are more than welcomed to jump in here. I am actually hoping that you will. I'd normally never steal a thread like this but I was hoping to encourage you to join in. No one like to be in that dark place.

We all have varying levels of angst. Not only is it draining to be in the throes of it but it can be hard to try and support someone else in the same boat. It can be triggery for some people. The most inconvenient thing for us is the fact that talking about it can really help. So, I'm here if you want to vent, b***h, angst whathave you!

It is a support community! Support community needs to be supportive!



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13 Mar 2011, 12:24 pm

Sowlowsolo wrote:
I want to know why I don't belong here - on this planet at all. Even on sites like this I still feel alone - I have no connection.
It's 12:15pm Saturday 12th March - I'm still in bed. If I had a purpose - I'd get up. I don't have a purpose. =[


Post more, so we can get to know you. :)

I wish I was still in bed at 12:15!



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13 Mar 2011, 12:25 pm

Quote:
It is a support community! Support community needs to be supportive!


+1

i know how you feel.
i don't fit in anywhere either.
i can superficially, but not really.



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13 Mar 2011, 12:32 pm

Yeah I feel the same way. I wrote about not fitting in on WP a few days ago here. It's hard putting yourself out there one more time.