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Today I am p*ssed off beyond belief. I've had enough of this same person at college, but I cannot lash out at him because that is not like me. I am a pacifist hippie. I just want to kill him, though. Today someone else poked me to get a reaction (I am most sensitive in my side areas), which he noticed, like an animal notices something, and he hugged me, reeking of urine (okay, cigarettes, but they smell the same).

He then grabbed my behind, then picked me up and took me into the elevator nearby (for disabled people to get to the second floor), and when the door closed he pulled down his trousers and his underwear and tried to rub against me (backways, but it's still f***ed up). I shoved him away, still not taking any proper physical action because I don't have that in me.

I walked downstairs, and then he grabbed my arm. His friend grabbed my other arm, and were referring to the incidents of yesterday ("be my pebble") right in my face. I carried on the next lesson for an hour, boiling up inside. After that when I came home, I went to my room, punched the wall as hard as I could (I think one of my finger bones is in the wrong place now), threw a big chair against my wall too, which crashed onto my bedside table (splitting it in half) and my Xbox. I don't give a f*** if the Xbox is broken, it's an old piece of crap.

This person has been sexually abusing me ever since September, and I want to have him arrested and taken out of college for good. If that doesn't happen, I will come into college with a knife and kill him. I'm crazy. I'll do it. Someone's got to do it, or he will be out raping people in the future.

This is not a troll post, this is actually how f***ed up Britain is. And f*** my life.

No, you won't kill him. Because you're a good person.

Go tell someone, it's obviously harrassment.

That IS sexual abuse.

Can you press charges against him? Screw the school if they refuse to do anything - go right to the police.

Do NOT include the knife or 'killing him' when you report it! I understand your frustration and anger but those words will set off alarms in people's heads. DEFINITELY go report it today - now - and request any video footage their may have been. If the school does not take immediate action tell them you're taking it to the police. Most campuses have security cameras.

Gah! This is horrible. So sorry you have endured this Simon...

Make sure your around a lot of people the next time this jerk is near you he wont try anything then you need to report him though

There were loads of people around, but that doesn't stop him, or them stopping him

Call the Police immedately and make a report. If he tries it again today, just yell ASSUALT, RAPE or what ever will get attention. When you contact the police, stay on them about it until he is in chains.

This behavior is illegal in the US and probably in the UK as well. File a report with the police and report him to the school as well. Next time he tries to touch you, tell him firmly not to, and if he does touch you, and you can't remove yourself from the situation, you may use the necessary amount of force to defend yourself.

Try and get the next incident on video phone?

Most elevators have cameras for this reason. File a report and see if it was recorded.

Good call. Actually, my friend knows a lot about self defense, and she says that the thing to yell is "FIRE!"

She says that if you yell "HELP", "RAPE", or "ASSAULT", people will get scared and run away. If you yell "FIRE!" everyone will want to see.

I don't know how legal this is in the UK, but I carry a can of mace attached to my keychain. Maybe that would help if he tries again. spray then kick him in the you know the rest and run.

Have you reported him to anyone Simonono? You have the right to report him and you will probably help other potential victims by reporting him if the police act on it.

I've told my parents about it, and that his abuse is one of the main reasons why I've hated college so much this year. I haven't reported it to the police because I don't have the confidence to use a phone to do that or just walk into a station.

I'm too much of a coward even to do that, and my parents won't, they just want to meet with my college tutor about it. I'm too embarassed to tell teachers about incidents, so I tell my mum everything. When I talk to my tutor about this, I won't be able to tell her fully what happened.

No matter what I can do, nothing will happen, just like the last time I complained it didn't. Sure, there is CCTV (only in the hallways) but when I am incredibly nervous and upset, I hide it, and smile. So when they see me smiling while being abused on CCTV, the college will think "it can't be that bad, he finds it funny". I don't know what will happen, but I can't rest until justice is done.

have to try.

going to the cops about harrassment was one of the hardest thing i've ever had to do, but it's worth it if you want the problem to stop.
if you can't say it - write it down.

Smiling when stressed is a normal enough reaction for many people.

Go to the police and explain at the begining about your AS and the fact that when you get stressed/nervous you smile, that it is your defence mechinism and you shouldn't feel ashamed about it it's perfectly natural. Tell them that you'd like to report a crime, make sure to tell them that you reported previous incidences to the college authorities and that they have this footage on cctv. Explain that you felt, given previous experience with reporting previous incidences, that you felt you'd be ignored. Explain what happened in the elevator. As other posters have said, a letter detailing what happened may make things easier (if you'd be willing to do that).

You're not alone, that's what the haven is for, that we're not alone. It's important that you do this for yourself, to show you that you can look after yourself. It will help prevent future crimes.

Last edited by LostAlien on 22 Mar 2011, 3:35 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Tell your school and tell them about it. Say that you are going to call the police/ have already called them.

I would advise calling the police too; it is definitely assault. but that's up to you.