Obsessed by certainties

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Hi guys,

I have many problems in my life right now, feeling depressed all the time, having a hard time to sleep...

I lost a very precious friend of mine who falsely accused my of horrible things I never did and that I'd never do.
Sometime I think I have a hard time getting along with people because they're different and because they have habits I consider wrong. One of them is to argue about something without being sure, without facts that can prove it.

I lost my friend because she accused me without facts...
(I can't find any way to express how it makes me feel angry and sad)

Now I feel that, more than ever, I'm obsessed by certainties.

I needed to know:
Are any of you also like me, like you want to get rid of any possible doubts before thinking something?
Did it ever caused you problems?
And could any of you cheer me up? Because I really doesn't feel good at all.

Same with me, but sadly, no answers yet...

But try to keep up with life and live it! Do what you love is all I can say...

Yeah, I've got a similar issue, apparently. My boyfriend says I rely too much on hard fact and not enough on "human" things like emotion and irrationality. I don't get it, but that isn't shocking if you look at my behavioral patterns.

I don't know much about cheering people up. Maybe try taking a walk down the street, writing down license plate numbers, then doing something funny with numeric patterns. It works for me sometimes.

Yes, I've always just thought that I was a perfectionist. I am very driven by the need to avoid mistakes and I fear saying something stupid. I like to get all the facts before making a comment or taking action.

This may be because of how I got treated as a child. I'm not sure whether a family memeber berated me for saying something wrong or maybe other children at school. It may be psycological. I fear making a mistake and being ridiculed. Or maybe I fear being wrong. I don't know. I think that if I could get around this fear I might be able to participate in conversations more or be more daring in my decisions.

People who talk without thinking and don't care if anyone else thinks they are correct facinate me because I can't do that and I wish I was less uptight.