Me angry for a change

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I normaly post on this site to cry into my muilk over my failing marriage. Of course I am to blame for everything because I am AS. I am so guilty at the pain that I have inadvertently caused over the years. I have only known I am AS for seven months and I have been really working hard to try to fix myself with only limited success.

My wife and I have just had a minor disagreement. As hard as I analyse myself, I can't see how my AS has contributed to this incident.

It was a silly and very short and trivial argument. My wife was having difficulty opening a can. In her struggle she had distorted the lip of the can so that it no longer interfaced well with the can opener. "Steve, please help" I heared from the kitchen. "Wow!" I thought, "ä civilised request". Off I went to help. I was passed the can and the opener and I too struggled to remove the top. Did my wife appreciate my efforts to open the can? did she hell. The can no longer met its design specification and was distorted all around the to with no sign of penetration by the openner. I was able to pierce the can with the opener but struggled to open the thing because it was no longer as designed. "Don't spill the juice. Don't hold it like that. You are going to ruin everything." At this point I had not said a word and I had made much better progress than my wife. What would have been wrong in appreciating that I was making the best out of a bad job. I eventually opened the can with minimal spillage. I remarked that I would have been nice to be appreciated for my efforts to try to help rather than have every move criticised. I recieved the response to get out of my wife's sight. "She didn't need the grief" and "I would take things like that wouldn't I".

Is my NT wife always right? Surely I am not wrong and useless all of the time? I don't get angry often but I am angry now, as a result of being of assistance.

I just thought I'd share.

Sound's frustrating, but that is marriage. Couples argue. Such is life. =] And no, this had nothing to do with AS. She was just upset about not being able to open it herself and was worried that you'd spill it and, maybe, that all of the effort expended would be for naught.

And of course she isn't always right. No one is! She was just in a pissy mood. You are not always wrong and I doubt that you are useless. Feel better, OK? These things happen.

Well, that's marriage. Sometimes there will be arguments about nothing. It's part of the agreement.