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18 Apr 2011, 10:26 am

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18 Apr 2011, 10:37 am

It needs an arrow from the CHANGE SOMETHING back into the ARE YOU HAPPY?


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18 Apr 2011, 11:21 am

Alphabetania wrote:
It needs an arrow from the CHANGE SOMETHING back into the ARE YOU HAPPY?


Yeah, and 'keep doing what you're doing' needs to cycle back now and then. You have to keep checking and making adjustments!


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18 Apr 2011, 12:49 pm

I love this. :)



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18 Apr 2011, 12:52 pm

According to that deep down i must want to be unhappy.



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18 Apr 2011, 12:53 pm

I would change something but i'm afraid and uncomfortable. I love routine.



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18 Apr 2011, 12:56 pm

Change really can be very difficult. I know that I will fight against it myself, no matter what it is. But sometimes I think about it for a while and realize the change really would be better, and then I make a new routine involving the change.



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18 Apr 2011, 1:01 pm

Made me chuckle, but it's a rather simplistic view of what can be a very complicated issue.


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18 Apr 2011, 1:08 pm

jamieboy wrote:
According to that deep down i must want to be unhappy.


It's not quite as simple as this chart makes things out to be, is it? Often there are opposing 'forces' that keep us from making changes, even if we really would like to, whether they be fears, or persistent habits that are hard to break, or other barriers to get over.

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I would change something but i'm afraid and uncomfortable. I love routine.


What helped me was starting out with small changes. Changing even small things like which fruit I chose to buy, routine changes like getting up earlier/later, eating lunch in a different room, or changing a route you normally take to get somewhere. I think that can help build 'change confidence' and also gives one a sense that the rules that have been influencing our lives are looser and more malleable than perhaps we thought. Then you can attack something bigger.


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18 Apr 2011, 1:09 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Made me chuckle, but it's a rather simplistic view of what can be a very complicated issue.


Indeed, but it's so neat, and not really wrong. What we need now is a flow chart that shows how to go about making changes that we can nest into this one.


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18 Apr 2011, 1:12 pm

Moog wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Made me chuckle, but it's a rather simplistic view of what can be a very complicated issue.


Indeed, but it's so neat, and not really wrong. What we need now is a flow chart that shows how to go about making changes that we can nest into this one.


Right. Like I said in another thread yesterday... The devil is in the details.


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18 Apr 2011, 1:16 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Moog wrote:
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Made me chuckle, but it's a rather simplistic view of what can be a very complicated issue.


Indeed, but it's so neat, and not really wrong. What we need now is a flow chart that shows how to go about making changes that we can nest into this one.


Right. Like I said in another thread yesterday... The devil is in the details.


I'm a big picture guy. And if the devil is in the details, god must reside in the big picture :lol: Just my little joke.


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18 Apr 2011, 1:18 pm

I generally only get down to details when I feel they're important. The bigger picture is usually far more attractive. :-)


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18 Apr 2011, 4:33 pm

I'm very much the opposite. It's troublesome sometimes with my work if I'm expected to manage the entire project. I prefer to work on projects which someone else is managing, so I don't have to worry about the big picture. When I was learning to paint, I would do it by getting very detailed in one small area and then expanding with equal attention to detail from there. This resulted in really distorted images because I wasn't stepping back to look at the whole thing. :lol:



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18 Apr 2011, 4:33 pm

If I looked at the details I probably would have killed myself years ago.

Big picture is the way to go.

I also live by 'Feel the fear and do it anyway.' Actually a self help book by Susan Jeffers. I've never read it but those words alone are wisdom.



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18 Apr 2011, 4:36 pm

Zen wrote:
I'm very much the opposite. It's troublesome sometimes with my work if I'm expected to manage the entire project. I prefer to work on projects which someone else is managing, so I don't have to worry about the big picture. When I was learning to paint, I would do it by getting very detailed in one small area and then expanding with equal attention to detail from there. This resulted in really distorted images because I wasn't stepping back to look at the whole thing. :lol:


You just need to know when to focus on which. I often get it wrong, though. lol


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