Infuriating situation

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A delicate matter for you to provide your opinion on. I'll try to watch my language to keep this post within the TOS.

Earlier today I was in a store waiting for relative of mine to get off of work. I decided to walk around the store because I was getting bored waiting up front. I spent some time looking around and then returned to the front because it was almost time for the person I was waiting on to get off. I overheard a customer complaining to a cashier that someone was following her around the store making her feel "uncomfortable" and "staring her down"and she threatened to call the police, and then she pointed at me and said "yeah you". My first thought was I did not even notice this woman, so how could I be "staring her down". After that the person I was waiting on said "just go"so I left because I did not want to cause a scene. My next thought when I was outside was what the f**k did I do? I can't walk around a damned store without being accused of stalking. I was in full pissed off take legal action mode. But I returned to this store shortly there after, and I was told to let it go and that no one believed what was said. Easy for you to say, nobody threatened to call the cops on you. I'll get over it, a f**king month from now. A dark day for our kind. What does everyone think?

It's good no one believed the lady. The lady may have been paranoid because it's possible she may have been stalked in the passed and coincidentally you took the same path she was taking in front of you and you happened to go the same direction she went. So she got paranoid because of her past experience.

And you weren't arrested or anything so why a month to get over it?

And my dad's cousin once threatened to call the cops on me because I was having a meltdown and I didn't care so I told her "go ahead" and she didn't call the cops. I think it may have been a empty threat or else she would have done it. I was 15 then. Me and her did not get along. We used to until we moved to Montana and I figured it had to do with me being older so she expected more out of me. My parents didn't get along with her either. Mom decided to shut her out of her life but last time I heard, she wanted to work things out and mom was okay with it.

I think this is terrible. Some people are weird. I don't know I guess we seem intimidating?

Once I was walking home and this lady was going the exact same way and she thought I was following her, so she crossed the road and waited for me to go past.. im a 5'6" weakling, hardly strong.

I'm sorry for what happened to you. I guess next time try not to walk around the store.

I think the lady in the story has her own paranoia issues. You assume you are the messed-up one, you're not.

Years ago I went into a bookstore. Couple other customers. I browsed the shelves, minding my own business.

comes up to me asks me to leave. Others stay.

To this day I do not know why.

In your case, as you know anyone who decides to feel harassed IS harassed.

At least I did not face that.

Sometimes my husband jokes about a person in front of us thinking we are following them. It's when we are on the road and I tell him "no" and I also say if the person thinks we're following them, then they are just being paranoid. But on Sunday I said if someone thinks that, then they probably have a history of being stalked and maybe they have experienced road rage from someone so when someone is following behind them and going the same way they are going, of course they will think that because of their past experience.

But hey if someone thinks they are being followed, stop walking and see if that person keeps walking or goes elsewhere and keep testing them by repeating those same steps, same as if they are on the road, pull over and see if that car will keep on driving. That's a good solution for paranoid people.

Back in November I was working my job and a woman came with a black dude who was covered in gang tattoos. I must have been stimming subconsciously because she accused me of laughing at her friend, when I wasn't.

She was definitely paranoid. It's hard not to take something like that personally. But now is the time to reaffirm to yourself that you cannot change people or control others. It happened. It has passed. It was NOT your fault. And it's time to pack the memory away. I know it's difficult, but we can't let things eat us up, right? I'm constantly reaffirming this to myself too and it doesn't always work right away. It's a continual process.

I'm so sorry PM this happened to you, it's really awful As others said, it's not your fault and some people are incredibly paranoid. I have no idea if it's related to AS (body language maybe?) or something else but I've had people randomly picking at me or accusing me of intimidating them and I'm tiny and look like a child

These days I wear sunglasses a lot and my headphones to make sure nobody bothers me, I don't know if that would help you.

At least most of us here will understand how you feel and have had similar things happen to us, so you're not alone. I hope you feel a bit better soon.