situation with some friends

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How do I handle this? Ok well I am friends with two other girls with asperger's and me being aspie isn't great at keeping things to myself. Recently I told my flatmate Chloe that Lisa (the other friend) had said "I had to try and not laugh because Chloe is a hypocrite given she pretends to be christian and still has sex before marriage, masturbation and porn" because Chloe wants to do bible study. Chloe was upset by this and asked Lisa who said that all she said was that a christian wouldn't have sex before marriage. I am really upset with Lisa because whilst I accept that telling Chloe was a bad idea it just kinda came out and I would have liked Lisa to have admitted and taken responsibility for what she did say. Lisa has saiod a few things like that behind Chloe's back some of which get out some that dont. How do I tell this to Lisa without making the situation even worse? Because at the moment Chloe has said she isnt beleiving either of us I know what happened.

A sad situation. I wonder if Lisa is the type to bad mouth/talk behind the backs of people she's social with?

I can see how Chloe would feel hurt by Lisa's real comment and I can see why Lisa lied. Lisa lied because she was trying to diffuse the issue between herself and Chloe but because of this lie, Chloe no longer trusts either of you because she doesn't know who's telling the truth.

I don't know how you'd fix this but I'm sure that it is fixable, perhaps some other member could better advise?

Yeah and I am really hurt by that because I know I am telling the truth why would I lie? I wouldnt? Lisa wrote on her facebook wall this morning "Don't bloody bring me into your fights you know who you are" I don't know for sure if she was referring to me but if she was i am even more angry all she needed to do was tell the truth and none of it would would have happened. I am also hurt because I am supposed to be Chloe's best friend and i would have liked her to beleive me.

I thought about writing something like this but im not sure.

Hi.

If that status this morning was referring to me then im also upset. I am really upset because whilst I accept that telling Chloe was a bad idea it just kinda came out and I would have liked you to have admitted and taken responsibility for what you did say not sugar coated it you said "that Chloe is a hypocrite given she pretends to be christian and still has sex before marriage, masturbation and porn". You have said a few things like that behind Chloe's back some of which get out some that dont. If confronted about it just admit it afterall you said it. I know what happened and I am hurt because I am being made out to be making it up. I did not tell her to drag you into anything it came out I have trouble with keeping things to myself. All Chloe wants is the truth the whole truth she wont be angry if you tell her it and we can all move on.

That message may work but it also could get a bit messy too if Lisa feels very angry about you telling Chloe in the first place. Personally, I feel that a person shouldn't say anything behind a persons back that they wouldn't say to their face but that's just my viewpoint on this and should be read as such.