Confidence Questions

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Hey guys/girls I've got a question I'm hoping y'all can answer. I was recently told that all I need to get girls is exude confidence. My only issue is that I have no idea what confidence truly is. Whats your definition?

It sounds cliche but this is true:
Getting girls is too shallow. Tricking them into liking you by pretending to be something you're not doesn't work. That doesn't mean you can't work to be more like you want to be but don't pretend to be someone you're not. What does work is embracing who you are and reject that you are inferior in any way- because you're not. You're just different.
There is no benefit in being 'normal' other than the majority of people are 'normal'. It is also true that the majority of people will never accomplish anything significant because they're normal. It is only the people that are different and extraordinary like you that do such things. You will exude confidence when you're fine with who you are and not trying to be anyone but you.

Self respect
Self Esteem
Self knowledge (Esp. What I'm good at or not/what my limitations are)
Self control
Liking myself


But I try not to confuse egotism with self confidence. There's a fine line between confidence and arrogance. Especially if I'm feeling 'less than' other people.

Personally, I can't stand men who are brash. I'd rather advice you to be sincere and genuine, but know your own worth as well. Being polite and considerate goes a long way.

I wouldn't consider brashness to be confidence.
Confidence is just the absence of discomfort and the unwavering trust in your abilities to handle the situation. If someone is truly confident I think it's passive and not consciously acknowledged by them.
Everyone is confident in some situations and unconfident in others.

I do agree that from what I've seen, most women respond to confidence. But as was stated earlier, pursuing shallow interests will never be fulfilling. Build up your confidence because you want to feel better about yourself, and good things will come.

I prefer un-confident men, since I'm un-confident myself.

Confidence:
A balance between egotistical and self-doubintg
Confidence:
A balance between impulses and thinking with your gut
Confidence:
A balance between maintaining a good image while not being obsessed with maintaining it
Confidence:
A balance between helping others but not being walked all over
Confidence:
A balance between being amazing at things while still admitting your faults
Confidence:
A balance between normal and unique
Confidence:
A balance between self and the world

chrissyrun wrote

In order to be confident in who you are, you have to know who you are. Of course, most people don't know who they are, so the next best thing is to give off the illusion that you know who you are, and the best way to do that is to be consistent. Sometimes a girl will say "Well, he may be an a**hole, but at least I know what I'm getting" If you switch it up all the time, or share too much too soon, she will go on sensory overload, and there are plenty of other guys willing to take your place as the potential number 1. Girls don't like it when guys are afraid of them, and so they prefer confident guys. Guy that is afraid=guy that just wants sex. Fair or not, that's what they usually see.

Of course, these days there isn't a whole lot to be confident about, and so the girls are going nuts, and relationships are out of whack.