I feel kind of unwanted.

Post Reply New Topic

yes it is time for me to vent once again......well basically my mom's getting a new house in town(right now we live kinda far away which is inconviniant for my going to college and her going to work). I tend to stay at a friends house most of the time because I don't like to be around my mom and her boyfriend that much and deal with their crap. So first thing about moving is I am kind of worried about having to spend more time at my mom's house until I am able to move out.

I plan to hopefully get an apartment with my cousin but I always feel like she would prefer not to hang out with me and does not really want to get an apartment with me.....seems that way with my sister to, like we will talk and stuff but I always feel like I'm the loser that people talk about when Im not there and it does not help that neither one of them seem to express an intrest in having me hang out with them unless I text them or otherwise initiate the interaction. But maybe I come of as not intrested and that's why. But yeah I am serious about this aparment thing but Im having a hard time figuring out how to confirm that my cousin is as serious about it.

I am single and probably will be for a very long time, considering I feel like I come off as just some annoying chick that no one actually wants around but will have around to be nice.

I felt unwanted when I was your age. I felt that I was unwanted by my parents. I felt that I was unwanted by my coworkers. I also felt that I was unwanted by relatives. I didn't feel that I fit in with anybody. I was where you are now, when I was your age.

I like to cook, and everyone likes to be cooked for. That helped people to want me, and me to feel wanted. If I liked to clean, I bet that would have been even more effective.

Why would you have to stay at home more? Has anyone indicated that if you lived closer to them that things had to change?

People can stay at friends houses for social reasons and if your mother or her boyfriend got on your case about it, you could tell them that it's for social or study reasons.

Well basically I have been pretty much staying at a friends house because they live really close to where I live at the moment, which is in Colorado sort of in the mountains, not that my mom and her boyfriend where happy about it but I'm 21 so they can't very well tell me I have to stay home. But when we move into the new house which is in Golden a town near Denver I wont be able to stay there as much because I don't have the money to contribute for gas to get a ride to and from the bus every morning not to mention since I may have to find work and am already going to college I'll have to be in Denver most days of the week. ........in the new house the nearest bus stop is within walking distance so Ill have to stay there during the week until I am able to move out.

But yeah the plan is me and my cousin who wants to get out of her moms house as well are going to try and get an apartment, so hopefully that works out. but yeah other then that I will pretty much have to stay at my moms house as I don't have friends in denver who's houses I can stay at. I can still leave whenever I want, but its still stressful when they argue or where arguing i heard enough of that growing up with her and my dad until they got divorced, so I really don't need to listen to that when I am 21 and already having a hard enough time letting go of some not so great habits my parents taught me.

You have my sympathy over the difficult situation that you are in. I hope things turn out well for you and that yourself and your cousin get that apartment (and that it's happy for you and your cousin).

Dang, you got bus options all over the place in that town/area. You could get lost on the buses in the greater Denver metroplex for hours, if not days.

Denver Area Bus Information

Shoot, given that there are museums, libraries and places on campus within which to wile away your time, you have no excuses for being in that house anymore than you want to be. BTW, the buses can take you all the way to Boulder, I am so jealous, here in The South they don't have that kind of coverage though they are working towards it.

Well yes the bus system is decent, but I hate having to do everything alone so sometimes I prefer to just be inside somewhere where I can chill......and I am worried this new house will not provide that sort of environment. Not that I wont be moving out as soon as possible but still then agian I will have a room to myself.