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softlyspeaks41
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Joined: 18 Apr 2011
Age: 56
Gender: Male
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Location: Marietta Pennsylvania

28 May 2011, 9:40 pm

Hello folks, I'm still relatively new and finding my way around here...while getting my bearings I'm certainly becoming convinced this might be indeed a true haven.

As for this specific haven thread..if my subject doesn't belong here, please feel free to move it to its proper location. After perusing around it seems to be the right topic for the thread.

Well, the "label" refers to, as you may suspect, my diagnosis of Asperger's..which has been basically a positive revelation, liberating in many respects..an "a-ha, that's why I've been like this all my life" type of thing. And confirming that I'm not alone, while not solving everything. I probably speak for the majority of you.

The "loss" is something that in comparison makes the diagnosis almost an afterthought. Seven months prior, my mom suddenly passed away in her sleep. We were extremely close and had been living together, as we did for many years. Parts of me may still be in shock or even denial. I guess there is some comfort in the idea that she..hopefully..didn't suffer during her final breath, even though she did have her share of ailments. However she felt, this never affected her unmistakeable sweet, caring, generous and considerate nature. It's been one year now, since the angel population in Heaven increased by one. Every day I miss her, some days it hits me like a speeding truck, others the ache is more subtle...the void is constant and unrelenting.

My diagnosis is important, and a milestone..don't get me wrong. However it can't bring back my dear mother. I know she is looking down on me from above.

So, I'm wondering, is there anyone out there who is grieving over the loss of a loved one...whether occuring before or after their confirmation of having AS..or anytime for that matter? How are you dealing with it?

I welcome your responses. Thank you.