Why must most people always be doing something?

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My brother is back in town for the summer for the first night. Now if it were me being out of town and coming home I would want to enjoy being home for a night and get comfortable and re-adjust.
However my brother is quite the opposite, and must go out with friends and do things. And it comes out of no where, I didn't even know he was coming home so had a way I wanted to spend my day though nothing certain. Then he arrived so I decided I could change my plans as I always do and hang out with him. But out of the blue all of a sudden he has to leave when it's almost night time and go hang out with some other friends. Anyways, I thought we were having fun just watching tv...but of course simpling doing nothing is never enough. I feel that I must be an extremely boring person, I do not like going out with friends except rarely. I enjoy doing very little, not because I am depressed but because going out with people always leaves me worse off and feeling even more inept. I'm not even good at doing solo tasks though, I am not good at completing or planning my projects.

Well...getting a bit off topic. Even my mom, dad, and other brother are this way to some extent and must be doing some pointless task or conversing with someone. My best friend is the same and asks me to hang out with people (atleast back when he lived here) but eventually stopped because I never wanted to hang out with people I don't know well or at all. (Unless I am intoxicated...and even then it often does not turn out well)

Bit of a rant...just frustrated everyone has to always be running around doing this or that. Half of me wish's I could be like that but I am not and the other half hates those who are because it doesn't make any sense to me.

Applicable Tautology: People who do things get things done.

If you want something done, do it yourself

Because if you aren't doing something, you get bored.

Some people find substance in different activities. NTs are social people by nature, so it follows that they would want to be constantly around people. Last time I was whisked away to a party, I retreated to a dark room and watched Star Wars, as one does.

I'm personally happy doing nothing (even though nothing is definitely something, however frivolous).

Because the more busy you are, the happier you are.

I have to be doing something at all times because if I don't I am left alone with the thoughts in my head. And they generally aren't good. Anxiety, OCD and PTSD.

I like to keep busy like pottering in the garden or doing crosswords or playing games on the computer.

^^ Greetings liveandletdie,

Thank you very much for your lovely post as I find this very interesting. ^^ I find this very interesting as I believe that you have mentioned "doing nothing". ^^ However I do believe this is very difficult to complete no activity. However perhaps in many cases, "doing nothing" defines completing an activity that an individual feel is of little worth, value or usefulness. However, also, I believe there is no set definition of worth, value or usefulness. Indeed, I believe that all activities or useful to accomplish different goals. ^^ Perhaps merely sitting and thinking may be very enjoyable for an individual and causes them to relax and be blessed by fun. Yet, they may be very scared to interact with many humans and therefore such an activity is useful for causing stress to them. On the other hand, the opposite may apply to a differing individual. Not interacting with humans may cause them to become very unhappy.

Therefore, I believe that within your happy little case, liveandletdie, I believe that you and your brother appear simply to wish take part in differing activities. ^^ I apologize very greatly if this is not of use for you.