Do you ever have trouble with expressing yourself?

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I feel like I am the only one who puts up with this... and I want to know if anyone else ever has this problem too. I wasn't sure where to put it since I figured since it deals more with emotion, it would go here? If not then feel free to move it into the right direction...

Anyway, does anyone else have trouble with expressing themself? I mean emotionally wise... say when someone asks what is on your mind or what you are feeling? Do you ever have a hard time telling them? I know most people with autism aren't very good with this kind of thing and it made me curious since I know I have this problem too.

The hardest thing I deal with is being able to express myself. I mean sure, I can express myself typing and everything but if you asked me what I was feeling or what was in my mind it would just be like this, "..." because I just can't go into detail of what I feel or what is on my mind. Sometimes I get peeved off with my emotions and dig my nails into my skin until a mark is left... because I get frustrated with not knowing if I am sad or pissed or what... because my emotions get so cluttered that I can't sort them out and at times I just claw myself until those negative emotions go away... and most of the time, I can't even say what I'm feeling or describe it.

I've gone to my parents and something would be wrong... they would ask me but yet... I wouldn't be able to tell them. I would just shake my head and look away... yet still stick by them like glue. They would know something was wrong and try to force it out of me and I would just scream and whine at them because I would become more overloaded. I mean I know they are only trying to help but I'm not really helping myself either... it can really be frustrating because my mind locks down so much that I don't know what to do...

So does anyone else deal with this?

Yeah, most of the time I can't express myself the right way no matter how hard I try.

Yeah... I hate it too... because I know what is bothering me at the time... and yet I just can't put it into words. My mind locks down and I get even more frustrated. Sometimes I even end up hurting myself too...

I just end up isolating myself and bursting into tears and often hurting myself in some way, whether it's booze, cutting, starving myself or throwing up my food. And I can't vent to people around me because it sounds like I'm whining or being too angry and selfish. I don't see therapists anymore because they also make assumptions about what is going on in my mind and they are strangers to me who don't really care because it is their job to listen to people vent and possibly have them locked up in a mental hospital, so I can't even be honest with them when it is supposed to be confidential.

nope your not the only one, "What's Wrong?", is like a multiple choice question for me;

A. Nothing is wrong, but I'm giving off some weird body language by mistake,
B. Something is wrong, but I haven't figured out what it is yet,
C. Something is wrong, but you'll blow it all out of proportion so I don't want to say,
D. keep pestering me about "what's wrong" and there will be something wrong, and you did it.

It seems my emotions are both delayed and muted, my emotions are like a box of 8 crayons when the NTs have a box of 128 different colors.

You pretty much explained what I actually deal with. XD

Actually, that's a great way to put it. Same with reading emotions. It's like taking a true color 32 bit image and converting it into something like a 4 bit color image.

I can't express my feelings... I wish I could but its always a puzzle to me and makes me uncomfortable when I have to express my feelings... I store them in and cry them all out when I am depressed... People often call me cold because of that..

I find it incredibly difficult. It is as if there is a swirling mass of feeling inside, but it gets stuck there when I attempt to translate it into a language that will be understood by the outside world. And it is generally only when I feel an extreme emotion, that I am even aware I am feeling anything at all.

I'm great at expressing my emotions in writing. And mostly I know what I am feeling. But I have spent 20+ years... well basically learning to be calm, learning what I'm feeling, focusing on that part of myself to the exclusion of say... a career. No university for me.

If you spend time thinking about what's inside you, learning about personalities, paying attention to why you do things, it comes eventually.

When I am around new people however, I get tongue tied. Simple questions are too much to answer. I don't know if they mean what they are asking and am not sure if my answer is what they are looking for.

Err, I remember 22. I was not in control of my emotions. I was scared and upset and... scared most of the time.

I can express my feelings, but I think I dont do it correctly, so I feel worse for that...
When Im sad I prefer to being alone because most of the people says that I feel bad for "nothing"

Sometimes I ask myself if it is really my problem or problem of others

Yes I have trouble with expressing myself and then people misunderstand what I say.
I know what I want to say but it doesn't come out the way I want.
I find it easier to write it down.

ja. i can barely string two words together without sounding all dithery. and when you throw emotions into the mix (particularly if it's expressing mine) then i have no chance.

although i'm also not that good at writing them down. for me it's hard to translate feelings into words and i'm always a bit in awe when someone does it well
One of the reasons i like it here so much is that there are lots of people who feel the same things as me but are able to articulate it better.

I can express my emotions quite well if I've got time to write them down and have the opportunity to edit and change how I'm expressing myself if it doesn't sound correct. Expressing emotions verbally is more difficult because there is little or no time to find the right words.

If someone is angry with me, (thankfully not something that happens very often), I find it difficult to know how to respond and just tend to shut down and say nothing. I can't express negative emotions or express emotional conflict very well, but again it isn't often I have to anyway.

this too

(see what i meant!)

Yes, my mercury function is debilitated by being in the 12th house.

My communications have evolved to be very short and pointed. I also tend to chose my communication battles well. Often I might have something to say, or want to say something, but making it into words other people can comprehend is a challenge.