My dad

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As you all know, I recently moved in with my dad. we've been estranged for the last 10 years, and before that it was about another 10. so basically i hardly know the guy, he's a former drug addict and a nice guy. my problem is I dont know how to connect with him, emotionally. this must seem like a non-issue for people with parents in thier lives but its totally getting on my nerves. For instance, im almost 31 and he wants "to get to know me" ? but i'm already grown. i have my routine, and kick it in my room. He knows i have aspergers and doesnt really say all too much about it. and its not like im going out of my way to say anything else about it.

He thinks i'm going through a phase with my sexuality and kind of equates autism with "childish" behaviour. and like "oh you grow out of it" but i dont think so. hes also made some comments about the fire agate that i look at, all day while i wake up and have a cup of coffee "like why in the world do you look at that so much?" and i've explained why. this is almost like him throwing out the garbage and and asking me where the trash bags are. doesnt someone look before they ask?

not this clown, and its really starting to bother me. hes also said he wants me to take care of him when hes elderly and thats not going to happen and he knows it but he just threw it out there to make shure i was aware of it

i really dont hate the guy but repairing this relationship is too much for me to handle. i cant even deal with my own life~!

this is why im in arizona for a month, i need escape!

my apartment is nice, and the price is right but when the lease is up im moving back to what i love.. flagstaff

I hate california!

Aren't these really just minor things though?

He doesn't understand spectrum disorders, he doesn't understand why you like looking at the rock, and he barely knows you. This is all perfectly expected and I think you have to forgive him for it.

He probably feels bad that he's missed out on a lot of your life...most drug addicts actually do feel bad they weren't there for their children, and while you don't have to try to force feeling connected to him on yourself, you could give him the decency of just getting to know you, as you would become acquainted with a roommate or potential friend.

I supose that was good advice and thank you. i'll see where everything is in a year and go from there
i'm just so used to not having a dad so i really dont know what to do