Extreme Rage

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I find that I sometimes experience extreme anger and I guess, frustration at myself... it is as if it is a culmination of things yet when it happens I have no idea exactly what bought it on. I end up punching myself, and then feel totally panicky and confused as to why I did it and what exactly bought it on. I don't know if anyone here has ever had any such issues, but it is really leaving me feeling hopeless about myself. Why can I not be rational and sensible when I get these strong feelings of frustration and self loathing?

The stress that creates this rage may be from events that are not solvable,or not easily solvable, or not solvable yet, so there is no rational reaction to it. I'm sure there are better ways of dealing with it but I don't know what they are besides stuff that gets all the energy out in another way like running really fast or jumping in the ocean, if you happen to luckily already be atthe ocean, and swimming until you're tired out.

I have these rages too but they've been much, much more infrequent now that I am on medicine that works.

I do not have rage issues. In fact, I have the opposite, a lack of rage. But I do have overwhelming emotions at times.

What I do is just try to analyze it. It's like learning anything new. At first, you don't know what's going on. You don't even understand the words to describe it. But as you learn about it you get the lingo down, then when it happens again you may connect one precipitating factor to a certain outcome. If you can take the time to think about all the things that happened and pay attention to your emotions, perhaps over time you will see the correlations.

However it helps you to learn (draw pictures, make charts, write in columns / make lists etc) would be a good place to start.

Maybe this would not be helpful for you. Maybe it's something deeper. Maybe you and I are not alike and this advice is not helpful. Sorry if that's the case.

Thankyou for your input, I feel like such an idiot for having this trouble at my age.
I feel I should have outgrown it by now, but it seems to have become worse.
And social interractions seem to worsen it as with social interractions come confusions and frustrations that you do not have to deal with when totally alone.
It is as if this intense anger and even self loathing wash over me at times, as it all builds up, and I lash out at myself and the things around me (not at other people).
And at that point, I don't seem aware rationally at all, all sense of logic at the pointlessness of my anger and actions, seems to vanish.
At other times, I am logical and very in control of myself.

feeling some rare extreme rage today. but haven't punched myself yet.

I hope you are feeling better now.
I need to find a means to deal with the emotion without hurting myself.
Maybe a punchbag might be useful.

thanks.
im not very aggressive so i usually just sit in a bad mood until it passes/the next day. or cry

maybe you should take up boxing/martial arts

I find that the traditional advice doesn't work too well for me. Exercise doesn't really dull my rage and something violent like punching a bag would just get me even more worked up till I end up punching something else besides the bag. What I need is something that forces me to FOCUS. Find activities that require 100% concentration. Really, a puching bag is the worst thing for anger if your idea of taking out anger is just to wail recklessly at something. Martial arts that require intense mental focus as well as physical effort would probably be much better.

Interesting you say that, Marshall, as in the past I was drawn to martial arts, mostly the shaolin form, staff work etc.
That always appealed. I might look into it, it may help me. Thanks for the suggestion of that, both of you.