You can't win.

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You can't win, as a long time single guy, regarding the social obligation to love children. It's OK for people who are able to find partners and get married, but as a long time single guy liking children will automatically label you a paedo. Yet you're still expected to love children even with the threat of such heavy hysteria around, so if you as a result affirm that you don't have an interest in children, this ostracises you too.

There may be volunteer activities in public settings where you can safely work with children--perhaps volunteering as a docent in a science or air museum. As a bonus, we may get to indulge in our special interests and work on our social interaction skills at the same time!

I'm a girl and I still feel weird about kids. I always think someone will think I'm being a perv. I like kids because they have mostly not learned to hide their true feelings. It's written all over their face. And they haven't lost that sense of fun yet. Their lies are easy to detect etc.

Anyway, I hear you! Even as a girl it's difficult.

I get urges to want to have kids of my own, but that rapidly disapates when I remember I am gay and have 27 nieces and nephews.

Yeah, society has a lot of stereotypes towards men. There are at the very least, more known men pedo's out there then women pedo's if not just more numerically.

Also--for immature guys women pedos are looked at as "awesome and cool" if they are stereotypically attractive. Check any youtube video about female teachers that molest their students--and you'll see hundreds of comments about "lucky kid" or "omg she could call me if she wanted some". Heck--one of the kids MARRIED the teachers and had 2 kids with her.

So yeah, I feel your pain.