I really need help, version 2

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Right now I'm upstairs while my drunk mother gags on her alcohol and my father's dementia is giving him chest pains. I can do nothing, no doctors can do anything. I left the only person who gave me anything because she abused me. I'm not very good at functioning as I can barely go to work because of my social problems and the only solace I have is playing music through a microphone that's broken and makes me think my voice is horrible. The only person who wants to be my friend is an ex skinhead who has law problems and I can't deal with it because of my morals. I just want to be able to be like everyone else. I want to not be in poverty so much. I don't know how to manage my time so I can never get to the doctor and no one helps me because my only family is suffering downstairs. What can I do??

I'm sorry.

(I really don't mean to be crass or intrusive but I think I misreadthe first time that you lived with your grandparents)

I will try to think of how to help, hang in there.

I'm Jewish, and if the ex-skinhead is truly a friend who will be with you through thick and thin, you might want to consider forgiving him of his mistakes. If he is there to use you or lord over you, then screw him. It is hard in this country or world especially being poor AND on the spectrum.

I can relate. Had to give up both my friendships. They were sick people. I didn't know it when we became friends. Keep trying.

As long as he's an ex-skinhead, I don't think there's a moral problem in dealing with him. And as long as he truly wants to be your friend, no harm to you. Now, if he's only pretending, I understand why you wouldn't want anything to do with him.

Oh and stilldays - I hope I wasn't insensitive by saying that I thought you had said grandmother and grandfather before, I was just confused, which shouldn't be the main point of my post anyway so I'm sorry. I know that some people consider their grandparents their parents (maybe having grown up with them as primary caretakers) or any number of other situations so I'm sorry if I came across as uncaring for focusing on that rather than your situation, which I realize is the thing at issue.

Thanks for the replies. He is done with it, he was drawn in at an extremely early age and has renounced it fully and is no longer racist. And don't worry, you didn't offend me. I should have made it clear that my grandparents adopted me and my real parents are both in half way houses because of their disabilities. You're really helping me out.