Page 1 of 1 [ 10 posts ] 

swbluto
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 26 Feb 2011
Age: 38
Gender: Male
Posts: 2,899
Location: In the Andes, counting the stars and wondering if one of them is home to another civilization

17 Sep 2011, 4:08 pm

This post is going to be pretty short compared to Wrong Planet standards because I probably have verbal memory deficits, but I honestly feel like I'm a bit too unique. You know that theory "Be yourself, and everything will be peachy"? I don't think that actually works if you're too different from the norm, especially not if you have deficits in the abilities associated with neurotypicals (Like "theory of mind" and "nonverbal" receptiveness and expressiveness deficits.). I could be fooling myself, and maybe I'm just schizophrenic or maybe I'm just universally boringly normal, but sometimes I get the feeling I'm just a bit too unique. I absolutely rock the casbah at math and science, but yet I suck dismally when it comes to memorizing verbal and spoken material. Yet, I recall and use inappropriately rare and long words in my everyday speech when I'm simply "normally speaking", and I commonly get "called out" on being pretentious. WTF? It's just what comes naturally to me. Leave me alone, you neurotypical cretins!

Since interpersonal similarity is the foundation of love and attraction, finding "the other" seems like a Sisyphean task for me. I feel I'm just too unique. (Oh, I see I've repeated the phrase "I'm just a bit too unique" a bit too often, haha. This is probably an expression of memory deficits of some sort, lol. What a typical human foible. :roll:)



Last edited by swbluto on 17 Sep 2011, 4:11 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Mack27
Deinonychus
Deinonychus

User avatar

Joined: 7 Dec 2010
Age: 53
Gender: Male
Posts: 382
Location: near Boston Massachusetts USA

17 Sep 2011, 4:10 pm

People like you are a dime a dozen!

Did that make you feel better?



swbluto
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 26 Feb 2011
Age: 38
Gender: Male
Posts: 2,899
Location: In the Andes, counting the stars and wondering if one of them is home to another civilization

17 Sep 2011, 4:13 pm

Mack27 wrote:
People like you are a dime a dozen!

Did that make you feel better?


That felt like a shot of oxycodone. Thanks, that's exactly what I needed to hear! lol



SammichEater
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 6 Mar 2011
Age: 31
Gender: Male
Posts: 3,903

17 Sep 2011, 4:27 pm

You have no idea just how much I can relate to that.


_________________
Remember, all atrocities begin in a sensible place.


TenPencePiece
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 11 Dec 2009
Age: 30
Gender: Male
Posts: 46,003
Location: Greater Manchester, United Kingdom

17 Sep 2011, 5:08 pm

Me too.


_________________
I'm always here, all you have to do is ask and you shall receive


Ashuahhe
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 29 Jan 2011
Age: 34
Gender: Female
Posts: 724

17 Sep 2011, 7:22 pm

As a child we don't want to be different, we want to be like everyone else. As an adult, we want to be special. I observe this when I go shopping, a group of young girls are all dressed in the same clothes, the same fashions. When you become an adult, you don't give a stuff about what you wear. Some people do though. I still feel like a child sometimes and I just want to be accepted :( This is something that most aspies feel, Iam right?



Meow101
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 16 Feb 2010
Age: 62
Gender: Female
Posts: 1,699
Location: USA

17 Sep 2011, 9:14 pm

I get tired of being different, but I really don't have much choice in the matter. I can relate to being "too unique"...occasionally you'll find someone who appreciates it, but they're few and far between.

~Kate


_________________
Ce e amorul? E un lung
Prilej pentru durere,
Caci mii de lacrimi nu-i ajung
Si tot mai multe cere.
--Mihai Eminescu


TenPencePiece
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 11 Dec 2009
Age: 30
Gender: Male
Posts: 46,003
Location: Greater Manchester, United Kingdom

18 Sep 2011, 3:37 am

Well, Ashuahhe, my current mentality is that I want people to accept me for being different, and to not force myself to change for others. But that's just me, and I don't need anyone if that must be the case.


_________________
I'm always here, all you have to do is ask and you shall receive


Ashuahhe
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 29 Jan 2011
Age: 34
Gender: Female
Posts: 724

18 Sep 2011, 4:33 am

Society just wants us to look like everyone else, act like everyone else which places a huge pressure on you to conform. This is where the apsies come in, we think differently and no one can change that, well not easily



swbluto
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 26 Feb 2011
Age: 38
Gender: Male
Posts: 2,899
Location: In the Andes, counting the stars and wondering if one of them is home to another civilization

18 Sep 2011, 8:48 am

TenPencePiece wrote:
Well, Ashuahhe, my current mentality is that I want people to accept me for being different


Some people might, but society at large won't. But, you know, there's that tribalism idea in neurotypical circles about "As long as you got your friends, who cares what everyone else thinks?".