Advice and/or comfort please?

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kittie
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19 Sep 2011, 6:30 am

Long story very short, a while back a turbulent (lots of drama), long-term relationship ended because the guy said he was gay. Anyway now he's dating a girl.

Got sent home from college due to crying too much. Might seem like a minor upset but I don't know how to cope with being upset. Reached the pinnacle of complete misanthropy. The only person I used to connect with was him.

(semi-unrelated) Thinking of dropping out of college and training as something that requires little prior qualifications. Maybe body piercing or retail. I don't really care anymore. Can't kill self because my parents only have me as a child and I can't imagine losing a child would be very pleasant. I am not unhappy enough to die anyway, just so incredibly hopeless and pessimistic.

:( *wraps arms round self and grabs meerkat teddy*



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19 Sep 2011, 6:47 am

Hi sweetheart, it doesn't sound like a minor upset at all. Ending a relationship is one of the most painful things that can happen to a person. Do take care, be kind to yourself and do whatever you need to do to feel better. It will take some time, but eventually your heart will heal, and all this will make you a stronger person. Leave the big decisions (e.g. decisions about college) until you're feeling better. All the best to you and meerkat teddy.



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19 Sep 2011, 10:43 am

If that was your first relationship "crash", don't worry too much - in such circumstances, everyone would be hurt. It takes a while to develop a tough skin to ward off all the kind of trouble that other people can give you. You'll get better in a while, don't worry (long or short depends on how fast you recover from such events).
By the way, ending a relationship on your terms isn't too bad. My first (and pretty much only) relationship ended when I found out I was being two-timed. Never really recovered from that one either :(

As for "dropping everything", leave such decisions for when you've got a clearer mind. All those events are probably distorting your vision of things. Also, these days, more and more people are doing exactly that: not getting any qualifications. Within 10-15 years, the job market for unqualified people will be completely saturated, so it definitely isn't a wise thing to do.