Having no reason to live....

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No friends, no girlfriend, no job, can't get disability, my parents openly despise me....why should I continue?

If you find yourself at the bottom of a valley, no matter which direction you travel, the path will lead to higher ground.

You should continue because the only way from here is UP!! ! Find ways to get involved in the community while you have time on your hands. Volunteer at a homeless shelter or an animal shelter or something like that. Find cultural spaces where people are non-judgmental. I don't know what community services are available where you live - maybe seek them out? Churches or other religious places (I don't know your faith background) can also be good places to get moral support. In the meantime there's always WP. All the best.

I don't want to volunteer. I hate people...all of them! I wish an asteroid would just hit this God-forsaken planet.

I can't make that happen, but I can end my miserable life.

You should continue because the world is amazing in itself, even if you never see or talk to another human being again. If you end it you'll just be a statistic and eventually just dirt, and seriously, the universe doesn't care about that. People will be sad for a while and then they'll just get on with their lives. Life is very, very unpredictable. If you end it now you are depriving yourself of delirious joy, incredible beauty, a happiness of magnificent proportions, that is in store for you later on - if not next week maybe next year or next decade. Anyway that's just what I think. I have also wanted to kill myself too, but thank goodness I didn't carry it out because so much can change with time, you never know your luck.

Hmm.

A reason to live? Does everything need a reason or purpose for it to continue to exist or live?

Or for example suppose you become employed? Me personally I don't think my delivery van job is what justifies me to continue living. It's just a source of income to get "stuff" and eat.


I can kind of relate to what you think though. Not so much about suicide but about hating the humans. I was not a happy person while trying to just get passing grades to finally graduate and escape high school. Even worse one of my first jobs was as a Cashier so I began to really loathe the public. I started to develop a strong Misanthropy streak.

Overtime though I've kind of let go of the strong negative feelings. After a while it seems like a waste of mental energy to keep maintaining grudges. I also got out on my own and got a cat. I think even just that simple companionship helped.

Also somehow I managed to meet a few friends but not many. No serious girl friend relationship though.

Anyway it seems like it would just help a lot to get away from your parents and find a way to get out on your own even if it's in a really cheap apartment. If you really can't stand people then maybe try looking for night shift jobs. Perhaps something like security.

Hello SadAspy, I think that you are a very nice person(beyond that I hate humanity skin) and you seem to be very intelligent, even though I may not agree with your views you are able to carry out intelligent arguments.

There are several members here that care a lot about you, wether you believe it or not if people didnt care about you they´d just ignore your posts at L&D and nobody would have contacted me being concerned by this thread.

Hope that your situation improves sometime soon.

So you can continue watching for someone just like you with the same kind of dilemma and then help each other "endure to the end" together ... and yes, the journey really is worth the effort.

Life is pain. But it's only through pain that we know pleasure.

You are sad...but what use is happiness unless you realize how profound it is? And you can only understand that by being sad.

Being alone...we are all alone. The doorway to what lies beyond life is wide enough for only one person. But we can always find someone. Whether you do what Adam West does and marry your right hand or if you actively go out and try to find someone...it's difficult to be alone in this world.

If your parents despise you, they aren't worth your love. Simply relegate them to "Baby Batter Maker" and "Oven" in your mind and forget them. It's what I did with my father and I'm happy.

Go to a convention, whether it's anime, games, science or even a sex ed one.

I have no (human) friends ( I kinda choose not to), I have not had a girlfriend for years, I come from a dysfunctional family.. Yet, I do want to continue..

Remember me, SadAspy? A few weeks ago I posted a topic on whether or not to reveal A.S. to interviewers. Guess what? I didn't get the job and a really, really wanted to get that job. I personally delivered (20 miles away) hand written thank you cards to each interviewer. They didn't bother to respond with a "sorry, but we have selected a better candidate. We wish you best of luck on your job hunt".

I knew I was a good candidate. I was so depressed and despondent when I realized they weren't going to offer me the position. I finished an entire bottle of St. John Wort, just to keep me sinking lower. I feel better now...

Whenever NT's bring me to the verge of "snuffing it", I think to myself, "yeah, wouldn't they like that... WELL F***K THEM!! I'MA KEEP GOING!!".

You remind me of the younger me.. I'm stoic now.. Riding my motorcycle, reading books, taking care of my cats keeps me from obsessing on the negatives.

I want to continue despite all the unjust discrimination..
I look forward hiking to the highest mountain summit here locally soon, I look forward to visiting the desert in springtime alone with nothing but wildflowers to keep me company, I look forward to landing whatever crappy job and saving my dough to buy me a track motorcycle and speed through turns at 120mph..

I currently reside in a harsh alien planet, but I plan to milk it as long as possible.. Just for the pleasure of seeing my NT adversaries go through their share of misery..

SadAspy, you have a lot reasons to continue, but you are unaware of them or ignoring those reasons..

Stay up, bro...

Sigh...can anyone think of better reasons? Because I'm ready to just slit my wrists tonight.

Well really I'd ask if the absence of friends, a girlfriend, a job, or parental approval is really reason enough that you need to die. That seems kind of a harsh judgment on yourself.

There are some sides to your situation though I don't know about. Like how old you are. The mention of needing a job makes me think you're older but having a hard time getting a job and independence from the Parents.

This one issue by itself would probably help immensely if you could get out on your own somehow and away from them. Maybe you could reach out to some other support system in either a Church or the Salvation Army to help you get the material support you need.

But in my very unprofessional opinion if whatever situation you're in is driving you this crazy I would suggest packing some things and just run away. Really if you're on the brink take a few things and hit the road or get a train ticket and runaway to a new city somewhere.

I mean in your mind you're kind of at the point where you have nothing to lose. You could either sit in a corner or bathtub and cut your veins or take what you have and see some of the world away from your bitter parents.

Hi, SadAspy, I don't dare to say that I truly understand your pain, but let me confess to you that my life mught not necessarily be better than yours. I live for three warm meals a day and a good night's sleep every night. I live to read books and newspapers to learn new facts about this world every day. Make a list of what you can live for, maybe you'll realize that hey, life is still good. Cheers!

I know the pain you are going through, I can't give you anything except that and that I hope you persevere.

Depression, despair, and melancholy are vicious self-sustaining cycles.

You are depressed because one day you realized that you don't have a job, a gf, etc.

You can't get a job, a gf, and friends, because you are depressed and you're likely moping around in your house, instead of pursuing those things a day at a time. Depression is likely to maintain and prolong the situation that you are depressed over about. Soo..

Break the cycle in order to pursue and achive want you want!!


Stop brooding and seek proffesional help. (I feel like such a hypocrite, I personally don't like shrinks or medication, but everyone's circumstance is different.) During episodes of depression, I take St. John's Wort -- does it work for everyone? I dunno. My greatest anti-depressant is motorcycling, it completely clears my head of negativity, it's great, I love it. You don't need a motorcycle license to ride. You can cheaply buy or rent a dirt motorcycle (a license is not required for off-highway riding), and you already live in a ideal state for dirt riding (Arizona, right?). I highly recommended it!! (Plus, many chicks dig dirt riders)

Well, SadAspy, I hope you get over your sadness. There's no majic wand I can wave to rid your melancholy, you just have to muster the strenght to clear your mind of the gloom and also muster strenght to steadfastly pursue contentment.

P.S: For some reason I thought you lived in Arizona while writing the above post.. Excuse me if I'm wrong..