People Don't Like Me

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I mean they do often--but not like I do them. In fact people like me so much that instead of meaningful exchange they often keep me around to sort of kick around. It's really hard when people I admire for one reason or another do this.

I have to like someone quite a bit to kick them when they need it ... to kick them for their own benefit.

I don't think that's what you're talking about, but I see people everyday who have pets just so they can control them, tell them what to do and punish them for not doing as they were told.

Probably not the best relationship for the faithful pet, but they don't know any different. To them it's just the way life is and they are glad to be alive most of the time, so a beating once in a while, for no reason, comes in stride.

Once the pet finds out the owner is abusive, the pet would be justified in eating them to settle the score.

wild photo dawg....I have no idea what you just said.

I used to be friends with a guy who kept me only to manipulate me into doing things for him or to steal my money (borrow it, then make up excuses for not paying it back). To hide the deception, he introduced to me to girls he rejected; he knew I was desperate, so he did this to himself look a like good guy. Eventually, I caught on to this, and told him I wanted him out of my life.

i like you seabright! also you're avatar is very cool!

I worry that no woman will want to see the real me. Making just regular friends is no problem for me though.

No one wants to date me, no matter how nice I am, how honest I am, and how respectful I am of myself and others. And even if I did have a lot of money, women would only want to be with me for my money and not for me.

I still don't know who the right person for me is.

Tim

I'm sorry to hear that!

I have given this some thought. I am only going to date other Aspies.

Tim

Seabright, I don't quite follow what you're describing. If someone is hanging around with you but is abusive, I wouldn't stay around them. That sort of thing is very hard on anyone's self-esteem, let alone someone with AS.

I seem to do ok with shallow friendship but I can't seem to form anything deeper and I am far overdue for not having a long-term romantic relationship of any sort. I think it's that I have a lot of practice and my confidence has grown with shallow social skills but I guess I'm still pretty clueless when it comes to the deeper side of relationships. Huge rifts have formed between most of my older friends and myself and I'm guessing my social ineptitude has something to do with it.

I'm thinking I may just apologize, not knowing what exactly I'm apologizing for but figuring it was probably an error on my part. We'll see if that gets me anywhere.

awe..thanks waterdogs (!)-- I like you too...
aspie1--how absolutely icky! I'm glad you managed to get out before it got really weird
Tim...
thanks larsen

I guess I should be less airy. Here's what happened. I took sidework at a former jobsite for some hours. I got yelled at again by work managers who first make like they want me around, then bipolarly flip out on me. I mean, this is hard s**t work-that I do quite well. I don't see why a person would go from happy to aggressive to happy to aggressive and still manage to have any employees. They would be happy to run me into the ground treating me like a queen-then a bitch-then a queen. Pretty sureal.

good luck with that Dalebert, though I'm not sure if appologizing for something you don't have any information on is going to be any good for you unless you can state something to the effect that you have no idea what you are appologizing for but that your sorry. (?).

Tim,
I went out with a guy who may be aspie, probably is bipolar, and definately is ocd recently. I fell for him, because we could communicate--up until we were more committed--then communication went out the window. I probably will not be looking for another experience for another 5-10 years. We stumbled on each other totally on accident-just the way I like it. I have my ad up in aspie affection, but it is a lie-I'm not looking and was drawn there thinking there would be a 'friends/aquaintences' option. I filled it out anyways, because, who knows? But it's true--I wouldn't want to meet somebody who is 'trying really hard' to meet people either, though you've never asked me. Is clicking on somebody's profile a bunch of times asking for a date? no. I click on peoples profiles just to read how others think or to see how they answered things becasue it helps teach me how to answer things or gives me fresh insight. Just chill. No girl wants to go for the lonely beggar type.

Some people don't seem to like me, either. I'm convinced that I would have a happier life, living on my own.

You're welcome!