Fear of winning an argument

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Have you ever been in an argument with someone who might be irrational and fear winning the argument because the person would only become more angry if you make a rational point that wins the argument.

I actually think it is common.

I remember in the movie Break Up with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn, Vaughn's character made a point how people become violent in an argument when they run out of things to say.

What the heck are you supposed to do? It is a catch 22. Lose the argument or the person becomes more angry.

I pick and choose my battles. Some arguments are never worth winning, some are never worth losing. Pick between the two as best as yo can.

Some situations in life are just a no win, or rather the less of 2 evils.. (Imho)

What's wrong with losing an argument? Sometimes it's impossible to win an argument. In fact I think people who do name calling and throw out insults and do attacks because they can't do it in a mature manner and just argue just to argue are weak.

This.
If you have the opportunity to pick and choose your battles, do it. If you don't, try to weigh up the importance of you winning the argument and the person getting angry, against deliberately losing the argument in order to avoid the hassle. If the hassle you'll receive outweighs the satisfaction of winning, then lose. But to be honest if you're aquainted with someone who is insistent on their way or the highway and you can afford to cut them out of your life, that IMHO is the best option. Also, arguments aren't necessarily always won or lost; sometimes the concept of winning or losing is entirely subjective (some people will always bnelieve they have won even if you know you have reason and logic on your side), and sometimes it's simply not important.

I once knew someone who would pick arguments with me for the slightest thing. When she asked me why I was "weak" and always gave in to her, I said it was because I simply wanted an easy life and arguing with her was more hassle than it's worth... to which she called me a coward and a copout and said that only weak people walked away from fights or didn't fight them 'properly' . People like that will never change. They will always, no matter what, believe that they are right and that their opinions are the only ones that count. If you know people like that, cut them off wherever possible. Whether you think you should win the argument or not, they won't let you, so don't waste your valuable time.