party woe

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Well, I decided to stop moaning about being lonely and do something about it. So I tried to organize a party. Sent out a load of sms messages.

1 person can definately come. Most people are busy. Well 99%.

Makes me feel like such a loser. This is why I don't bother with these thngs usually.

I hate being reminded that other people have lives, are being invited places, are going on nromantic weekends and holidays, all legitimate excuses, but i'm not doing anything.

I said last month I would try and get in touch with people I used toknow. That didn't work out eithher busy, no message back or changed cell phone numbers.

I hate my life.

I say congratulations. You are very brave. You "decided" to do something to change something you did not like and took a very possitive action. Like I say to my daughter, Rome was not made in just one day. When you try something new you will not get it right the first time. Actually some things require lots of repetitions before getting a good result. Organizing a party is not easy. I know becauseI used to work organizing events. There are a lot of things to take into account to get a good result (day, date, time), so it is only natural, having no experience, you did not get better results, but dont let that stop you. You can try again, or try something else. You can try knowing people who share your interests, like taking part in classes, courses, events, groups, etc. That is a very good wsy of meeting people and making friends. Please do not stop trying. Best wishes!

I have an acquaintance who most would regard as a rather social person. He seems to have a lot of friends and tries to keep in touch with them. However a few months ago he attempted to arrange a going away party of sorts. He sent the invitation out on facebook, which meant it went to everyone on his friend list, which contains a few hundred people. Most did not reply and only one rsvp'd, so he canceled the party.

One of the issues was that not everyone lived in the area and the traffic here can make it very difficult to get into and out of the area, especially at the time he planned the party for. Many people were also busy with work, and since he invited a large number of people, many felt they had less of a responsibility to attend because others would surely attend.

Try inviting a small number of people out to dinner or a movie or some event thats easy to get to and affordable. Perhaps even just one.

If you wanted to give arranging a party another go, now would be a good time to start arranging a New Year's Eve party.

I think you should be proud of yourself for taking action over an area of your life you want to improve and think the other posters made some good points. I'd focus on quality over quantity and try reconnecting with people you've lost touch with one-on-one or in a smaller setting, like Chronos suggested. That could be easier than throwing a party and possibly even help you feel more closely connected to people than you might in a big group gathering. For me personally, it's often at big social gatherings that I feel most alone, actually.