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I have been really depressed lately.
I sit in my house all day because I dint have a job and cant drive a car.
I am supported by my parents and the government.
I am lonely without any friends and it looks like I never will have any.
We live in a world obsessed with sex and I am still a virgin. I am too weird to attract any man.
I need a support group so I can interact with people but I live in hell where they have no support groups
For some reason WP depresses me more because many aspies really do seem to lack empathy.
I wont kill myself but I wish someone would murder me.
Having bipolar and aspergers really sucks.

When I'm not at school I mostly stay at home as well. I don't have a job, and I can drive, but not on freeways or in unfamiliar places.
I am supported by my mom and my grandma while I go through college.
I've only had 2 friends since 4th grade, I don't know how to make new friends, and since I only see them on the weekend I am lonely during the rest of the week.
There are people who like weirdness, including myself. So I don't think you can be too weird to attract someone.
I too am looking for a local support group, though there doesn't seem to be any in my area. Hopefully you'll have better luck than I, have you tried meetup.com?
I can't relate to being bipolar, but I can relate to being an aspie and being depressed. You're not alone there.

Would maybe doing some volunteer work be something you would enjoy? If so, I'm sure you could find somewhere local to volunteer. Also, depending on the place, they sometimes help you arrange rides to and from.

Frances

That may not be a bad idea. That way I would not feel so useless and help other people.
Thanks for the suggestion.

I relate to everything you posted except I'm a guy, WP helped me get over my depression & I'm not bipolar but I was suspected of it years ago when I was very depressed. I joined a local bipolar support group for a bit & it was a good thing for me but the group shut down due to lack of members. I would suggest looking into an online bipolar support group sense there isn't anything in your area. Your welcome to message me if you'd like someone to talk to; I find having friends even if they are just online can be a big help sometimes & I can use some more.


Volunteering is good idea. I'm involved with something(it's not much) but it's helping me be out of the house & be around people. I would like to do more but I live in a rural area & there isn't much else around here except for religious/church things & I'm not religious

I'm pretty much in the same boat as you myself. I have all the same problems going on, and I'm trying my best to get decent help. Actually the only difference between us is that I'm not a virgin. Which I do kind of regret sometimes. I found that I can attract men but they don't stay with me because I don't have an NT female personality and so I no longer seek meaningful relationships because of too much social rejection. I'm not planning on marrying or having children either. Anyway I'll be your friend on here any time. Not everyone on the spectrum experiences ASDs the same hence spectrum. There are some aspies that know what your going through and can show empathy towards it. I post in this forum a lot Bipolar, Tourettes, Schizophrenia, and other Psychological Conditions. Sometimes it's more useful than general discussion when it comes to certain issues.

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I live in a rural area too and am not a Christian. Most of the things where I am are associated with a Christian church.
Those people seem to be very judgmental. I blame most of my depression on my area. Everyone is the same here.
It would be easier to meet strange and quirky people.

I am in a similar area, and although I am Christian, I am of a completely different denomination and they don't think we are any way, shape of form, Christian. I am Catholic in a Fundamentalist Protestant area. We have to drive about an hour to Mass, so we rarely go. I understand where you are coming from, because my family is treated the same. There may still be places to volunteer. I can tell you some of the places that people volunteer here, and you could check out your town and see if those opportunities are available.

Vets office. They don't make much money in rural areas and would probably be happy for someone to volunteer to help out.

Hospital. We have a small hospital and they have volunteers.

Library.

Police Department. Not as an officer of course, but doing office type work.

Parks dept. You could help do things like take care of the football field, help landscapers in the park, etc

Schools. As long as you have no criminal record, they may let you volunteer to do something to help there. Also, the school board uses volunteers sometimes. My oldest daughter who is a senior volunteers at the school board four days a week instead of coming to school at 11am. She doesn't get credit for the volunteer work

Volunteer fire dept. Even if you can't or don't want to fight fires, our dept has volunteers who come to the scene to help out victims as needed

There are quite a few places you could check out, those are just some of the options. In small towns, people are more willing to take volunteer help.

You could also find a preacher who is friendly, or somewhat friendly, and tell him what you are looking for and that you would prefer that it not require you to be involved directly in religious work, but that as long as you don't have to pretend to be something you aren't and they don't try and change you, you would be interested in finding out what is available. Not everything that's through churches is religious.

Another option, if you are good at talking to people on the phone or helping that way is crisis counselor by phone. There are agencies that take volunteers to sign up for certain days and hours where they will be by their phone and available if the switchboard needs to transfer them a call.

You could also call the closest United Way Information and Referral and ask them to help you find secular volunteer work near there.

Good luck! Being bored is horrible!

Frances