Misunderstanding And Craving

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Okay so I had been happily distracted by my friends for a while, then two friends who I used to go to school with sent me friend requests. I thought we talked fine but they deleted and or blocked me :,( So I was upset and then again was distracted by friends so the hurt healed a little. I decided one day to talk to a close friend of the boy I really like who blocked me, and I just said hi and he wanted to cam. He told me that he liked my body and we flirted. I eventually told him the whole story about me and his friend. I got teary a bit when he hit on me because I said I didn't trust anyone and that I was tired of people blocking me or being treated bad. He went on to say that alot of people hurt him and when my cam disconnected he kept wanting to call back, and said that he isn't like that. He convinced me to show him my bra, and I wouldn't go further unless we hung out. So we were going to hang out and everything, well the next day he blocks me And I was upset because I thought to thinking I'd probably like it. So I'm very hurt and sad I don't know why they block me? I just don't understand. Now I feel physical angst again because I want to be intimate with someone I find attractive, and I swear everyone that I don't want wants me, and I just don't think it's fair that the few guys that I liked that aren't even that hot in other girl's standards they don't want me? But yet there's all these guys I don't like. I wish I could just die, or that I was a boy so then I wouldn't feel like this. It's like I'm starving I can't sleep and all I can think about is my lust object(s). I wonder if I tooka knife and cut myself and put it on facebook people would feel bad then help me get what I want. Because I hate this feeling it isn't fair that I can't be happy with a guy that I'd do anything for and they always lead me on, but why? If they don't want me why bother?

From a male perspective, It could be that you're coming off as too desperate or needy and in doing so, they see this vulnerability and insecurity so they decide to use it against you or attempt to manipulate you in some way that is beneficial to them. In other words, they know they can get the milk without buying the cow so it eliminates the challenge for them, men enjoy a challenge and enjoying chasing what we can't have. I think both sexes can be like this, people are like kittens with a ball of string, feed them a piece of string each time and they will follow it but give them the whole ball of string and they will simply look at it and walk away.

I don't think you should result to self harm or injuring yourself at all, no one ever got someone attracted to them through pity or hurting themselves, there are people here who are very supportive and can relate to you.

I know it's really hard not to (I can't do it myself), but you just have to stop analyzing it and keep trying until you find the right person who can reciprocate your feelings - you'll definitely know it when you do.

Don't bother yourself with this Facebook nonsense, you're probably not doing anything wrong...

You are so much better than this. Stop giving your attention to users. They don't care about you. When you go into chat, you become entertainment for them. Learn to value yourself and only accept what's best for you - for you, for you, for you. Not them.

I think those guys were only wanting you for sexual rezones. I would suggest that you try & wait a bit before indulging guys in sexual ways like showing your bra on cam. There are guys out there who've been hurt before who are wanting more than a sexual relationship; I'm one of em & i would love to have a girl like you

Last edited by nick007 on 04 Dec 2011, 6:49 pm, edited 1 time in total.

What saffron said.

Don't indulge the trolls & losers who come on to you online. I know it can be difficult to judge people and their intentions online, but try to get to know people, and their intentions, over a longer period of time, say weeks or months. If someone hangs around that long, the chances are they aren't looking for a quick thrill.

Whatever you do, don't hurt yourself, I want to make that the first and most important statement here. Self mutilation is a serious thing and can become a worse and worse problem. Please don't do that.

Next, I don't get these guys, you WANTED to meet and they drop you? Problem are the teases that put on a smalls how then never meet, but you wanted to meet makes this completely bizarre to me, so I agree, these guys are just looking for a cheap thrill. Guys like that aren't going to take you seriously and you shouldn't take them seriously. Trust me, if they did actually meet you, I doubt they'd be any good as they'd be looking to get what they wanted and go.

So I know its hard, but put them out of your head and try and find some folks worth talking to. Preferably by getting to just talk to them for a while first, maybe meet them first before showing off anything other than pure G pictures.

Just my 2 cents.

Facebook is a total bizarro world to me with all this friend lists and blocking people crap. Or even getting friend requests from people you never even liked from high school.

I didn't feel like I was really connected with people through that site so I left and haven't looked back.

I think you should block Facebook and just leave the service and idiots behind.