Does anyone feel you don't do or say anything right?

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I feel that everything I do or say lately is wrong or stupid. I feel I'm always sitting by someone's side driveling on about trivial crap that doesn't need to be said, and then people get fed up and walk away or turn the TV up really loud or do anything to make me go away without having the heart to say ''go away''. And it really makes me hate myself inside because I only realise what I'm doing after I've done it, then it's too late and then I'm sitting there feeling like a twat and wondering why I always make a fool of myself all the time.

For the passed week or so I've found myself bursting into tears for no reason whatsoever, and I stand there quivering and struggling to breathe. I just seem too sensitive all the time and I keep taking everything personally and I keep feeling that everybody's against whatever I say and do. It's like everybody around me seems to have this ''I'm normal and you're not'' vibe towards me, making me feel like I'm stuck at the bottom of the social ladder and everybody, including my Autistic friend, and even my cat,, are higher up on the ladder. It's making me feel really depressed and I can't seem to snap out of it because I don't know what to do. Isolating myself is not an option for me - I do not want to do that. I was just wondering if anyone else here felt the same, or gets days where they feel like this? It is such a horrible feeling.

Yes. I always feel this way. Don't bother about it. Don't feel depressed about it. Aspie's are not good conversationalists. I try to be the silent type. I'll only say something if I really care.

And if your cat is anything like my cat he is higher up on the ladder.

Driveling on about trivial crap? Have you listened to "normal" conversations lately?

I also don't understand how televisions become more important than the person you're sharing space with - unless you're watching something monumental like the first moon walk.

Once I'd helped a friend all afternoon and was rewarded with a death stare when I said something during a news show we were watching. Note to self: Make yourself scarce the next time she needs a favor unless it's a life or death situation.

We all get those patches where we feel like we're "spitting into the wind." I wouldn't isolate myself, but I would detach as much as possible until the feeling blows over.

Well, driveling on about crap what is crap to other people.

Sometimes I feel I can't always blame people for turning the TV up. If I had some annoying pest sitting beside me all the time when I just want a bit of space and watch the TV, I would probably turn it up....that is, if I wasn't this nice. I actually think it is more polite to be more encouraging, for example saying, ''I am listening about [so and so], have you heard about this?'' or, ''look, [so-and-so] has happened on the TV, let's see how this turns out'', also saying it in a friendly tone of voice. I think I would then shut up and listen to the TV with them, because seeing somebody angrily grabbing the remote and turning the volume right up just makes me feel awkward and annoying.

I just feel that everyone else is trying to be normal, and are giving me that vibe. When I was 12, I had a strange obsession with pregnancy. I think I was just a bit fascinated by it, and it was just a silly phase I was going through, which I grew out of (12 is still quite a vulnerable age), and I used to ask my friend if she had seen any pregnant women today, and she freaked out and said, ''I don't look out for that kind of thing - I don't look at other women's bellies, I am not a lesbo'', and I felt like she was hinting that I was a lesbian, which I wasn't. And I imagined my friend just walking about thinking about ''normal'' things and acting ''normal'' and intending to do ''normal'' things, and that made me feel even more worthless because I thought to myself, ''why can't I just think normally and act normally and have normal intentions?''

I just feel like I am always acting like something I'm not, ie like a lesbian, or a ret*d, or just a complete pest. I'm none of those things (well, maybe I'm a pest), but I am not a lesbian - I just get myself into silly obsessions that do not connect with how I really feel, and I just act ret*d by talking complete drivel what nobody else cares about, and it makes me feel like I'm not normal and everybody else are just normal people trying to have normal lives. It sometimes feels like everybody are being smarmy against me, that I'm the insecure one who needs to get a life and they're just ordinary people. It's really not fair.

The only one who can relate to me on this is my friend who has ADHD. Perhaps I have ADHD instead of AS?

Perhaps some people have had such sentiments towards you, however that you feel the cat has such sentiments towards you indicates that a large part in this is likely false perceptions. This can be caused by things like stress and hormones. I think if you cling to the fact that it's probably not the case that everyone has negative perceptions of you, and that there is a strong biophysiological factor, and that it will pass eventually, you will start to see an improvement. You also might see a doctor and get some blood work done to check your thyroid levels, and see a psychologist or psychiatrist for the depression if the blood work comes back clear.

You might also start walking for 30 minutes a day and engage in activities that you enjoy.