Death of family member

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Which death would be worse? Death of pet? Death of a human family member? I find that by losing a pet is harder. I just feel more closer to dogs than people. Is that the norm for aspergers/autistic people? My West Highland White Terrier, Timmy, only 6 years old, passed away Labor Day 2011. I can't sleep most nights. I sleep with a Westie stuffed animal for comfort. I miss Timmy so much! He had copper storage disease which is common in Westies. Its a genetic problem. The copper toxicity just builds up in the liver. Towards the end he was 20 pounds, but went down to 16 pounds.

Timmy was my only friend. Since the age of 27 he has been my ONLY friend. I never had a social life nor friends when I was younger. Just seeing Timmy as I came home from work brought joy to my life. Walking him was fun. He died in dad's arms. M

Um.. I don't think anyone can tell you who to miss.

When my aunt died a few years back.. (I wonder to this day if she had AS) I didn't really know her incredibly well. I loved her, she had parakeets and she always let me come to her house to play with them. Eventually she gave them to me.

One day my mom had picked up a kitten, very small. Little did I know that animals that small are very susceptible to diseases. It started for a day, it barely moved from the bed we had made for it. Its breathing seemed to get slower each time. I was frantically looking up things to do for the kitten to improve its health, nothing worked and I got to see the first pet I was ever really responsible for die.

I cried ridiculously, when this animal died. When my aunt died, I didn't cry as much. It felt harsh that I could cry over the cat more. It seemed more like it was her time, but to be honest she died fairly young (mid 50's). I loved my aunt more.

I think no one can tell you who to love more.

But even if your grandpa wasn't your friend, if he was nice and raised you, loved you..etc, it is something to consider.

I'd be more devastated by the death of my dog that the death of a family member. Chico loves me unconditionally. My family members don't.

I've always taken a pet's death harder than that of another person, related or not. I think it has a lot to do with the unconditional love and companionship they give us, that which another person isn't capable of.

Dogs don't make fun of us for one thing. Dogs love us. You can't tell when a so called "friend" actually likes you and is a good person. Dogs are just better companions. They don't judge you at all. When such a companion is gone, life is very hard and lonely.