No Christmas for me!

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I had it all planned out perfectly. We could do this, barely, and everything was falling into place.

My husband was laid off for four months over the summer. We have been playing catch up with the bills, etc. I have a car that needed work and it's in the shop. I decided to just sell it and use that money for Christmas. A friend of my oldest son's wanted it, and was going to give me $400 for it plus pay to get it out of the shop. He had talked to them and said there was a $12/week storage fee. That was several weeks ago. I called today, because the boy is supposed to come over today and pay me, and the shop said it's $12 a day.

He cannot get the car. I will not have any Christmas money. I've lost the $200 I have on the x-box thats on lay-away because you only have five days to get a refund after you put something on lay-away.

I wish I were dead!

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Need to say this. I have absolutely no plans to harm myself in any way. That would be worse for my kids than not having any Christmas at all.

Not being able to even give them one gift each though, does make me wish I were dead.

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The best laid plans do sometimes fall apart, I've had the same thing happen to me also, more than once !

First of all is there any other family that can help you out for the kids

Second, I know its getting late but try contacting an organization that can help you get some toys for the kids, toys for tots or salvation army comes to mind.

Third.. can you exchange the Xbox for something else so you don't loose the deposit ?

How old are your kids ? Do they still believe in santa ?


For me this will be the worst ever Xmas, I just found out yesterday that I need heart surgery. I have absolutly no money, none coming in at all. I was denied unemployment because I'm unable to work. Disability also because it has takken months to find out what is wrong with my legs I'm not able to walk 100' without them going completely numb
I have no family other than my mom. My home is in foreclosure. I haven't seen my kids in over 10 years thanks to a crazy ex wife.

An older gentleman in a wheelchair got in the elevator immediatly after I found out that I need heart surgery. He said to the lady in the elevator with me that she seemed in the christmas spirit, as she was smiling. He looks at me and said "you don't look too happy" I told him "I just got some bad news, I need heart surgery"
He then took his hand and knocked on his artificial leg 3 times like knocking on a door and said " It could be worse"

All I can say is hang in there "It could be worse"

at least you have your husband and kids. Christmas is not about presents, its about caring and loved ones.

So sorry to hear about your situation My financial situation is similar because of a commision based job that didn't work out and a new job that won't happen now until after the holidays, if it happens at all. Fortunately my kids are adults but it is my youngest grandaughter's first Yule, so it still makes me feel pretty crummy. I am taking advantage of the fact that the grandkids are so young and my daughter and I have agreed to have a celebration in January when things are a little better and everything's on sale I don't know how old your kids are but if they are too old for Santa maybe they would be willing to have Christmas be a family time with the promise of a celebration with gifts a little later. I agree with Gadge, it's not about gifts but about being together and it can always be worse, but I know that doesn't make it feel any better right now. His suggestion of Salvation Army or other assistance is good- don't feel bad about it- you would do the same for someone else if your places were switched, I'm sure. Try to have a good Christmas and enjoy your family; I hope things look up for you soon!

Thank you both so much!

I'm sorry to hear about you needing heart surgery. Will you be able to get it? With no income, Medicaid should pay for it shouldn't it, if you are in the US?

I'm also sorry about not being able to buy the grandbaby anything, but as you said she won't remember it.

My kids that I'm buying for are 15, 16 and 18. They know there's no Santa, and I wasn't planning on anything except one present each. They xbox is for the 16yo because we had no money for his birthday in March and he got nothing, so thats a combination birthday and Christmas present. No, I can't swap it for even the cheaper one, because of their rules. I had five days to do that and didn't think I'd have to. No agency will help kids this age, and I understand that. There are too many little kids out there not getting anything. The 15yo wants clothes, we were going to go shopping and let her pick them out, then get them at Christmas. The 18yo wants money to spend for stuff for her senior year.

The ONLY chance is if my crazy, selfish mother in law will allow him to get some money from his inheritance. She has done that before, but she's gotten crazier than ever now, and he's so afraid of her disapproval that he rarely dares risking her lecture. It's just a freaking lecture! Even I can deal with hearing her lecture me and tell me how bad I am if I'm gonna get what I need out of it!

He's over there today, had to take the day off to take care of some stuff with his brother. I called him on the phone and told him about the deal falling through. He doesn't ever show emotion or seem to get upset, and he has this almost "magical thinking" thing going on where if he doesn't think about it, then it won't happen. I'm usually the one who has to fix things like this. He HAS TO ask them for it today because they are all going out of town tomorrow!

I played my trump card. I "cried". Now, I haven't been able to actually cry for about 15 years now, but I can sometimes tear up a little bit when I'm sad. But I can sure make it sound like I'm crying on the phone, and when I cry he can't handle it and caves and does whatever he needs to. I don't use that just for anything. Only for very, very important things, like this.

We will see. I'll update as soon as I find out something.

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Hang in there ! !

and to answer your question, Luckily I'm a veteran and the VA is going to do it. I've been denied benefits because I can't work(in my field) and denied disability because they didn't have a diagnosis. Great system huh? Its taken months to figure it out, but they finally did.