This just isn't right.

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I'm afraid to tell my own mother about anything bad that happens to me because I am afraid she will blame it on me. Like the recent incident I posted about in the adult forum about leaving my drink unattended and the consequences of that. But I am not even comfortable telling my mom about it......I am sick of having this sort of relationship with my family...I think its partially what feeds my self loathing feelings.

it's difficult not to be able to confide in your own mother. at least your aware that she is not available to you. your challenge is to find someone you CAN talk to. i guess you feel comfortable here. that's a good step.

what happenned when you left your drink unattended?

Well I was just having a couple drinks there waiting for my sister to be ready to cut my hair at her work. So everything seemed to be going ok(other then the fact I stupidly left my drink unattended for a couple minutes) then around the time I was paying for my drinks and getting ready to head over there my memory gets sort of foggy and I remember bits and peices of getting my hair cut and nothing after that and ended up waking up at two in the morning wondering what happened. So I think its safe to say I was drugged, the part that disturbs me is looking back on it and what my debit card account says I spent I have a feeling I had a couple drinks after whatever drug was in my drink took effect I just can't remember and I am not comfortable with knowing there are sick people out there that would put such dangerous things in peoples drinks.

So yeah I feel like I cannot tell my mom that.

thank goodness nothing worse happenned. i was worried you might have been raped. i know someone that happened to. yep, there are some real creeps around. most folks are nice, but the few scumbags make it hard on everyone to know who to trust.

This happened at a beauty salon? Someone put something in your drink at the salon?

I think it was somewhere nearby the salon?
My mom and your mom should hang out. I'm sorry, it really does suck to have the people you want to trust the most react so irrationally.

Ah ok. Yeah I reread it and see now. I was wondering what the h*ll kind of salon her sister works at! lol!

This sort of thing is very familiar to me. I have a great deal of trouble confiding in anyone or looking for support when I run into problems (esp. when they are caused by external events), because I anticipate the blaming. It was like that with my family when they still talked to me.

Sweetleaf, that sounds really scary to say the least. It's so unfair that you don't have anyone you can talk to. One simply cannot contain themselves after something like that, and needs plenty of support.

Hang in there!

As weird as it sounds, try talking to someone you don't know at all. Just anyone who'll listen. It can be comforting to know that they have no preconceived notions of you and no expectations.

Well I guess my sister must have told my mom, and she did not react that way which is good.

That's a sucky thing

One time I wondered if someone put something in my drink but it may have just been that I drank too much because I did do two double shots of vodka in a row. I did black out a lot that night and never remembered a lot of stuff. I don't really remember from before we left the bar until I woke up the next morning not knowing where I was or how I got there.

That is probably part of the reason I don't drink any more, that and because every time I ever got drunk I got really bad hangovers.

I never went anywhere or reported anything because I don't know what if anything happened and I was underage at the time so I would have gotten myself and the bar in trouble.

I pretty much always get my own drink at the bar and never leave my drink unattended so maybe it was just because I drank too much.