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Wrongfully terminated due to a disability. Union failed to request arbitration in time. EEOC took forever and didn't do a F#@#ing thing. Lawyer wants 20,000 retainer. Its been over 3yrs now and who knows how much longer my former employer is gonna dick me around. They have a whole law firm. Good faith my AZZ !

Divoriced the psycho b***h 11+yrs ago. haven't seen my kids in10+ Gave up on dating 8+yrs ago after meeting nothing but trailer trash.

No family that talks to me. not that I had much to begin with. 2 Friends that never call

Just became unable to walk, legs are numb and weak. Extremly painfull skin condition.

No food stamps, no financial assistance. reached the end of my savings 5months ago

About to loose my house and all my belongings. I'm in foreclosure and have no place to go. can't even afford a truck to move. physically unable to move a box myself nevermind a rental truck

All my utilities are in..."shut off notice"

and now that I'm finally broke enough I can go to the VA hospital. an they find something in my left lung that is suspecious.

I don't have anyone to talk to except for my cats and if I loose them because of all the above stuff I'm gonna go balistic and freak out even more than I currently am ! !

A grown man shouldn't be treated this way.

People can't do their jobs without their personal opinions and lack of any kind of intelligence. F'ing it up

A HR repesentative that was out to get me because kes a liar, 2 faced bastard and cant even follow the LAWS

I cant sleep without having nightmares and only manage to get 3 to 4 per day average

I've got $90 my mom gave me for food

And then its the end

wow
isn't there some kind of american(i'm guessing?) equivalent to the Citizens advice bureau (gives free legal etc advice)?
i wish i knew more about america to help you Hopefully someone else does....

Are you eligible for emergency assistance, welfare, SSI, SSDI?

Have you called 311 (the government services hotline, no matter what state you live in I believe) to see if you can get appointments to apply for Medicaid and the other things John Browning mentioned? Also, there might be other support programs specific to your state. What state are you in?

First off, thank you for your service to our country. And I say this even though I protested the first Gulf War back in 1991 and to a lesser extent also protested the second Gulf War. I may disagree with the official policy. I am in favor of those in service.

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And I might suggest perhaps going more unofficial for the time being. It sounds like you've had quite enough of official efforts to "help" for a while.

Now, you might luck out and get a doctor who's actually pretty good at the VA.

And I really recommend holding onto your cats if at all possible for as long as possible. In fact, there might be a community of cats owners with a local association or two. Explain your situation, they might provide a backup if you become homeless, plus they might be pretty decent people who might possibly provide direct help with a job, legal resources, medical resources, possibly. It would be the zen approach of underasking.

And I really think, when faced with this kind of 'official' stonewalling, inaction, nonaction, lies, clever rewrites, that it's entirely normal to alternate periods of giving up with periods of activity.

Wishing you all the best during this difficult period.

@John and Purchase

I am ....err...was eligible until I went to apply and got hit with this (disability) Unable to do the work readiness program and with that went food stamps and financial assistance. I'm in limbo currently,.. not able to walk due to a nerve?? problem.
and I live in New York

@ Aardvark....Your very welcome, I was not in either war as I got out in '89 but was fully prepared to defend the rights of others.
until I get a diagnosis and some medical proof I don't think applying for disability would be possible.

The VA medical center has been nothing less than awesome imo still it takes time to get an appointment...8weeks !

I just realized .........I was willing to defend others rights to the death and I cant get a little legal aide WTF is wrong with this picture?

VVV thought this was well put and lmao VVV

I'm glad the VA is good, sounds like they could beef up on staffing although that's probably a pipe dream in this economy and political climate.

Legal aid, or lawyer willing to take a case on contingency? Although my very limited experience it kind of seemed to me that lawyers turned down good run-of-the-mill cases because they were hoping for the home run, big money cases.

And human resources, I think that's where we get 'official' stonewalling, inaction, nonaction, lies, clever rewrites big time. I mean, these people are uber bureaucrats, conform to the system, are little petty dictators, try and lord over others, and I guess get them to conform to the system.

AardvarkGoodSwimmer wrote

Where I'm going ...Buffalo NY, they are doing a marvelous job, I've never had to wait in the waiting room for 1 to 3 hrs like my old family practioner or dermatologist.



lawyers are greedy and lazy, they want the easy money for the least amount of work. They do not have my best interest in mind they just look for the $$$$.



Really ! ! What ever happened to a "personnel department" which implied that a person is involved, not a "resorce" like a utility or material. If I owned a buisiness I would never call it HR. And bare minimum do thing legally ! several years ago they changed their attendance rules to the legal minimum and then went past that. EEOC determined that their policy is not legal. Why am I the one doing the unions work in defending their rights

since your mom sent you money to buy groceries...I assume she still cares about you. Explain to her that you are about to go homeless by no fault of your own and see if she will take you in.

Also there are some programs throughout the US that help give homes to homeless and soon to be homeless vets.
see if you can look into it as well.

I wish I could wave a magic wand and make this better...but the fact is that you are probably going to lose your home. Get some cat harnesses and leashes so you can keep up with them if you do become homeless. And beg your mother to take you in until you find a source of income....you can still apply for emergency food stamps and try applying for disability, but do that after you find a new place to live. You need to start planning your next move.

You will be on my mind and in my prayers

Jojo

And the sad tragic infuriating comedic preposterous thing is that I remember reading that "human resource" was supposed to be a step forward! Oh, no, it's not an expense, we're investing in our people which will pay big dividends in the future. Yeah, right. Well, obviously---Obviously---it has not exactly worked out this way!

And yes, if I ever have the good fortune to build and grow a company, I might just go a little retro and call it the personnel department.

You need to make contact with your family or friends. If they aren't receptive, they're worth as much to you as they were before, so it doesn't hurt

This thread is killing me because I work for a disability services organization, but I'm in PA and am unfamiliar with 'the system' in the state of New York.

If you haven't already, I would contact your local Center for Independent Living (CIL). Google says your local CIL is the Western New York Independent Living Project, Inc. at 3108 Main St, Buffalo. Their phone number is 716-836-0822 and their website is www.wnyil.org. CIL's are state-funded organizations that provide a variety of services for people with disabilities, including advocacy and information & referral.

Due to the funding cutbacks CIL's in most states have had, chances are they are operating with a bare-bones staff, but you might be able to get some guidance there, if not an advocate to help you get linked to programs that can help. If you have lost the ability to walk and have limited support, I think you should ask the people at your CIL if you would be eligible for a Medicaid Waiver program or a Home and Community-Based Services Waiver. (Those are the same thing, but different places use different terminology). Or, for the short-term, they may be able to help you find temporary housing, if need be. Don't be afraid to be a squeaky wheel until you get some clear information from them about what your options are.

I hope this helps a little and I'm sorry I can't do more. Please keep us posted on your situation.

I talked with a VA rep that told me to aply for SSDI. and then go re-apply for food stamps, medicare and financial assistance. Because I'm unable to stand/walk for very long( less than 30 minutes at a time before my legs go completly numb )

I called them up and they asked "what is you diagnosis" and my reply was..." I'm still going thru tests".. which some I have had to wait for up to 9 weeks to get an appointment.

And to top it all off they found something in my lung, I had a CAT scan last week
This Friday I go for EMG and I'm scheduled for a doppler of legs and a MRI of lower back Nov 3
I'm still waiting to see a dermatoligist for skin condition. Nov 30
Then I've got to wait till Nov 28 to see primary doctor to see whats up with my legs.

I'm so sick and tired of everyone giving me the runaround BS and the quick NO that every place gives me.

@ snapcap...sister will not talk to me! I've repeatedly tried and gotten no responce. My mom is helping as best she can but in response to a place to stay her reply " you need your own place and I need mine" she did offer up storage space for my belongings. Thats all the family I have. my 2 friends are true friends. but just don't help as much as I would if the roles were reversed. They are a bit of a typical DINK couple. they do what they do and just go on with their lives. Offer up advise but are obvious as their dislike of actually doing something to help is minimal And by the way love your username..thought "poptop", "zip strip" "pull tab" immediatly


@AardvarkGoodSwimmer

Simply love your wording ! !

@blueroses
pm already sent but again thank you for your words ! !

@jojobean
thank you also !

I'm still trying !

All I have to offer you is a no-contact hug.

*hug*

It sucks. Keep trying.

The VA rep may have already told you, but there are VA programs and benefits that can help with disability-related housing needs, even if your medical condition is not service-related. One that I'm familiar with from working with clients who qualified for it is the HISA grant program, which pays for adaptive equipment and accessibility modifications/renovations to allow people to function more safely and independently in their homes. I would definitely talk with the social work staff at your VA hospital to see of there are others and to get on lists for any housing options there may be. The process of applying for SSDI takes forever and I'm really concerned about your foreclosure situation in the meantime.



It's the not knowing that's the scary part. I'm going through some similar things with an injury/injuries following being hit by a drunk driver Labor Day weekend. Hang in there and continue to keep us posted.

And not 10minutes after posting the last one I get a call from the nurse at the VA. Not good news, all bad from the sounds of it.
the cat scan did reveal something??? in my lung..."a density"< what kind ??
they want a pulminary test, an ecocardiogram and wear a monitor for 24hrs. they found esophageal wall thicking, and a "spot" on my adrenial gland...no idea what thats about but gonna see an endocrinologists.