Please, just be quiet!

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Warning, this is mostly just a rant.

So, my mum is an ex drug addict, and bipolar... She's been pretty low functioning socially, and in life in general, particularly with managing money, feeding herself and keeping even a quasi organised home. For instance, she'll go weeks without bathing, and order a taxi to take her half way down the wrote. Also, she's highly sensitive to even the smallest of perceived slights.

I'm not good at being consistently pleasant, I have very little tact and if I don't want to talk about something, I'll say it. She used to understand this better when I was younger, particularly pre-drug abuse, but she seems to have lost the understanding that I don't mean her ill.

For instance, she's become very interested in conspiracy theories in the last year and half, and I'm not interested in them at all. I don't want to discuss them. I just don't. But it's all she wants to talk to me about. She keeps telling me how I'm intellectually lazy because I don't wish talk about chemtrails.

I find that comment a bit hurtful, because I'm currently working extremely hard at my A Levels and trying to get into uni, etc.

She cries whenever I tell her I don't want to talk about it, which makes me feel like a horrific human being.

She also recently got a puppy, despite the fact that we aren't allowed them where we live. She's making no effort to house train it, or clean up after it's messes. She keeps telling me that the puppy doesn't like me, and that it can sense a 'bad vibe' from me. I don't particularly enjoy having a puppy, I'll admit. Also, every time she leaves the house she insists that I keep the puppy company, which is annoying but I will.

But when she leaves the house, all it does is cry. And I highly dislike the noise. I try soothe it. I make sure it has food, water, toys, and will stroke it (I don't want to hug it or anything because it smells, and I don't like hugging dogs). And when she's not crying, she barks at me, which I find really distressing. Not the display of aggression, although that is unnerving in a young puppy, but the noise of it. It's worse that the crying. I get so overloaded that all I can do it wrap on my head with my fists, and rock back and forth.

My mum made me look after the puppy today, which I'm so unhappy about because I have an exam tomorrow and I wanted to spent the whole day revising (although I feel very comfortable with the content, the feeling of being extra prepared just soothes my exam nerves). But I've had to look after this nightmare puppy, and the puppy just makes me want to cry. And I very rarely cry, outward displays of emotion are few and far between for me.

Am I being unreasonable? Should I just look after the puppy without complaint, and talk to my mum about whatever she wants? The complete opposite? Or somewhere in the middle?

I would say tell her no, it's her dog. Sorry, no.

I'm also very sorry you are going through this.

I'm also wondering if there may be more than bipolar with your mom. Some drugs can cause long term psychosis. I'd really push for her to get a medical check up.

I'm sure I will be flamed from here to next week about this, but if I were you, the next time she left me there with it, I would give it to someone, and tell her it got out. If you aren't allowed to have it, you could lose your place because of it. That's not worth it for a puppy.

If she's not even bathing, she probably doesn't take care of the puppy well either, you mentioned that it smelled. It might be better for both of them if they are parted. I'd also call whatever local adult protective services type agency you have there.

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I'm giving it another shot. We will see.
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To clarify, by the puppy smells, I mean the ordinary puppy smell.

Yeah, I see your point. :/