Just something I need to say

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I am posting this against my better judgement, but I really feel the need to say it so I'm going to.

I am really actually feeling very unwelcome here....and I don't understand what I did to deserve some of the insults I've gotten here. I'm kind of getting fed up with it. Then again maybe I'm just too sensetive and I feel like its happening more than it is, but I feel some things that have been said to me or about me here are just downright nasty and mean. So as much as I like posting here and having somewhere to get advice and support about some of the issues I face I don't know if I can really handle some of the stuff that gets said about me.

so that's all I wanted to say, I now need to evaluate whether or not this website brings me down more than it helps. Oh and if anyone can tell me whats so horrible about me it would be nice to know so I can try to be more tolerable or whatever.

I'm sorry if any of my posts to have come off as insulting, it's never been my intent

as far as I know they have not.

i followed that to its source. androbot2084. androbot is a theist. i wouldnt worry about what he thinks. and an incredibly hypocritical one as well, funny he can take that stance on one hand, and then persecute you in the next breath for disagreeing with him. how christian. lol. a christian that follows the precepts of christ are few and far between. most are just sad closed-minded individuals, bound like slaves to stories their parents told them as children.
however i am not going delve any further in this vein as personal insults are prohibited on the forums, and i dont want to be banned. but seriously, dont take people like that seriously. He didnt fire off very many neurons in making that ignorant remark, so dont waste any of your firing giving his 'thoughts' any attention.

I'm sure the people who take their time to post cruel, purposefully unhelpful advice to you are just trolls irl so try not to worry so much about what trolls say. easier said than done, yes. but, from my experience, the more you act upset by what trolls say oftentimes the more they will bother you. On the other hand, it's important to be honest. So the I see it, I guess even if you are bothered and you do bring it up to them or fight back as an honest person would if it did.....try not to let their comments bother you for very long seeing as they're trolls and all anyhow. hugz

I've been watching this forum for years before I finally recently made an account. You are one of my favourite posters. Don't worry about it, just be yourself.

It's silly to marginalise someone in a forum for a marginalised group. We're all in this together.

I try to actively remember that I'm dealing with a messageboard full of people who are dealing with a neurological disorder on some level or another, and who subsequently probably have different impediments or frustrations or whatever to act out. Remember, no one on here really knows you, so there's not much they can truly say about you personally.

I've never had an issue with you, and I don't see why anyone would....

I like you Sweetleaf, and although I don't smoke weed, I bet you would be great to party with.

That being said, I think the thing people dislike is the negativity.

People want to help you, and they suggest things. No I cant cause this or that or the other thing. They get frustrated.

Rather than seeing that their suggestion didn't help they say it must be you.

It's a defense mechanism. I've had it done to me before in a face to face venue where no matter what was suggested, just wouldn't work.

Heres what I've found that lessens that crap. Thank them for caring. Don't be over the top cheerleader, but yes, fake it and say I am really glad you care or something. Don't use one stock phrase over and over. Tell them individually how much it means to you that they did offer something. Even if it means crap to you. Tell them why you can't do that and either ask for alternative suggestions of it they are just pushy then lie and say "I'll try that, thank you"

Those are basically the rules of engagement when dealing with otheres when the other is not a therapist.

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I'm giving it another shot. We will see.
My forum is still there and everyone is welcome to come join as well. There is a private women only subforum there if anyone is interested. Also, there is no CAPTCHA.

The link to the forum is http://www.rightplanet.proboards.com

Honey, some people are going to kick you just because they can. That's human nature. You'd think Aspies would manage to do a little better-- that having been victims ourselves would make us less prone to want to kick others-- but it doesn't always work that way.

It sucks. But it is. It's everywhere. Stick around. I'm curious to see how things turn out for you.

I like you Sweetleaf. I don't follow many of the discussions on here, because this forum is huge. But you are one of the people, when I see your name on a thread, it makes me want to read it.