I don't get angry anymore

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I'm not sure if this qualifies as a problem, but that's why I consider it worth mentioning.
I have not gotten angry at anyone on a personal matter for a while (few months). I can't remember the last time I threw a tantrum or was blinded by rage. I'm also largely incapable of hating people. The most I can muster for a person that most would consider deserving of hate is usually pity, disappointment, or regret that they are not as I would like them to be. I almost never state my feelings of pity and co., and try to lessen my interaction with the person (in a non-noticeable way) for what I perceive to be our mutual benefit.
I also can't think of a proper counterargument to my philosophy that I should help those that I see to be "bad" or what-have-you, rather than hating them or attempting to punish them. This is a problem in a few ways. I'm worried about being manipulated by those I'm trying to help (if they want attention or some other reason--even if it is subconscious). I'm worried about being incapable of "helping" those I set out to aid, and that I'll end up doing nothing or making things worse. I'm also wracked by guilt when I don't attempt to do good by those who I think need it--whether I'm uninterested, shy, intimidated, or if I just don't feel like it. The last one makes me consider myself to be an ass.
I also worry that I sound elitist or arrogant in thinking that I know how people shouldn't be acting (I don't claim to know the right answers; I claim to know the wrong answers).
Forgive wall of text and angst. . __ .

I dont think it's appropriate to view people as being "to pity or not." I wonder why you are not angry any more. The feelings of guilt might indicate that you are depressed on some (maybe very mild) level.

I'm a religious person, so I know that what I'm going to write will sound kooky to lots of people, but I try to have in mind that every human being has a spark of the divine in them. No matter how ugly, or nasty, or stupid or whatever, I find someone, I have a fallible perspective. I should treat each person with a certain dignity. It's very humbling to keep this in mind- and it remains a challenge. It goes against my own natural inclination to think that what I perceive is the truth- but if I find someone ugly, are they really ugly in God's eyes? And does my perception lead me (unjustly) to treat them with indifference? (For example).

i don't know, i think those sound like somewhat positive qualities. in many contexts, anyway.

welcome to the world of apathy. I also don't get mad because i can not bring my self to care enough about anything.