BAD LIVEING SITUATION NEED HELP

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As I allready said I'm in a bad liveing situation and i have been for abut 3 years. I got my AS DX in elamentery school and now i am also physicle disabled as well. For the last 3 years my parents have become more and more unsuportive and want nothing to do with me. I have no money . So now i have been thinking about trying to get into a group home. If that does not work I might end up in a mental hospital or on the streets which I don't want. So I guse what i'm geting at is what should I do? Also I should add that I'm haveing more and more problems even takeing care of my self and I have alot of sensory problems and I stim from the time I get up till the time I go to bed

Last edited by DJRAVEN66 on 17 Feb 2012, 12:26 am, edited 1 time in total.

Is there a shelter somewhere nearby?
I suggest taking a trip to your local city hall and social services office. They usually have resources for people who need emergency shelter.They could probably direct you to a group home.
Its better than a mental hospital and MUCH better than living in the streets.

Goodluck *awkward hugs*

I've gone to city hall and they about arested me because they thought I was crazy. Whear I live their is no shelter nearby and social services takes to much time i've been on a list for 7 years. I have spent the last 7 years on and off the streets. It's normaly in the summer that I end up on the streets and thats not long from now.

If you do something like go to city hall with an advocate with you, it completely changes the dynamic. Maybe an ASAN group in your state to start with?

I think stimming is fine in private and even the less obvious methods in public. That said, do you think you might be stimming more because of sleep deprivation or increases stress?

I don't know of any ASAN groups around my area. As for the stimming as my physical problems have been getting worse i've been stimming more.

Here's an ASAN chapter list.
http://www.autisticadvocacy.org/modules ... egoryid=15
Perhaps a group in a nearby state might be able to give you a lead?

I think self-advocacy in the United States is very much in the early, formative stages. Maybe things are further along in Britain, I hope so.

So you might end up having to scope out and make arrangements on your own. But if you can get an advocate, things are so much easier and you focus on what's good for you rather than the nuts and bolts of applying, etc. In fact, a book I like entitled "You Can Negotiate Anything" by Herb Cohen took the position that often it is better to get someone to negotiate on your behalf and that by itself often is very good negotiation. Now, of course a person can't really negotiate everything, or I guess they can, but aren't guaranteed winning. But there are higher percentage moves. And that's kind of what I took from the book, as well as the importance, if possible, of an advocate.

Two other possibilities

1) maybe a local church?

2) other relatives who might be more accepting of spectrum differences, as well as a physical disability, such as older siblings, Aunt, Uncle, grandparents, etc.?

Here's sending you good wishes and *awkward* hugs

Last edited by AardvarkGoodSwimmer on 17 Feb 2012, 5:55 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Whatever happens, please try to keep us posted. You're in my thoughts.

*awkward hugs*

sadley to say I have no willing relitaves nore is their a church nearby that has any services. my closest friend that is willing to help is almost a 1000 miles away frome me. so that wont work.

Try the group home. Staff are paid to be supportive, and trained to handle physical disabilities.

I migth end up in a group home. I just have not had any luck finding one that I can get into.

Could you maybe stay with your friend during the summer? And if you stay out of state temporarily, I don't think you'll lose state services or your position on the waiting list. I think---and please don't quote me on this---that anythign less than a year typically counts as 'temporary.' So, something like six months is safe. You are just 'temporarily' out of the state.

Maybe the nearest church, even if it's some distance away?

And a better church won't require you to be a member and won't require you to believe like they do.

I have no gas in my car and I can't walk but 20 feet with the braces i have now and for get about even trying to walk at all with out them. Also I don't have a wheelchair because I dont have a way to get one but I need one.

Because I do not know where you live, it is hard for me to give you the right advice.
Where I live, if you are disabled, there is a service called Air Ride that will come to your home to take you to doctors appointments and to the Mental Health clinic.
Surely you have been seeking counseling - right.
Most group homes requires you to have some type of disability and a referral from say a mental health agency. You have already shown us that you have a problem - and can't get around, all you need to do is get on the computer or telephone and make the calls and get the help.. If they throw you out - go check yourself in a local hospital.
Tell them what ever you have to - to get them to admit you and have them work something out with the mental health people to get you a place to live and some kind of income. Surely you are getting some kind of SSD check every month.

I don't get any counseling or any sort of SSD check. If I check my self in to a hospital I will be their the rest of my life.

You shouldn't be. That's the bad old days.

And in some ways, it is easier to get a pro bono lawyer than an autism advocate. In either case, I think most of us here at WP will generally help you strategize phone calls and so forth.