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Not sure whether this belongs here, but...

I've got a party tonight (my brothers) so no getting out of it, lol. The thing is, I have quite a bit of anticipatory anxiety about it -- I'm the type that always assumes that something will inenvitably kick-off, and a massive fight will start - this is usually down to said party being on a Saturaday/Friday night, and whether it is held in the town centre. Which, tonight, it will be. So...I don't know what to do. To relax, I mean.

A lot of my brother's mate's will be there, people I've never met before, and I know that their the kind of men who 'banter'. I'm worried that I won't be able to get into it, or that I'll end up being offended or offending someone else. I know that, technically, I won't, because I'll have my sister and other bro there to talk to, buuut... I guess I'm just thinking over things way too much here. It's not like I'll be forced to sit next to someone I don't know. I'm just kind of frightened. I like pubs, but on a quiet Sunday afternoon, not on a Saturday 'let's get f***ed up' night. And indeed, I shall be getting f****d up, because it's the only way I can talk to people. Argh, I hate birthdays!

Yeah you are over thinking it, I know this because I would do the same . Look at it this way; you don't know what is going to happen, you don't know exactly who is going to be there and you don't know how the night will go, but because you want to know in your head how it will go so you can anticipate how to act, you are filling in the very large blanks with anxious moments that you yourself are creating in your head. For all you know you could end up having an amazing night out, you just haven't done it yet so you just don't know and won't know until your are there.
My advice would be not to over think it (easier said than done I guess). Turn up, have some drinks and let the night play out. Spontaneity may not be our strong point but some of the best nights out I have ever had are the one's I've never seen coming. Just be careful with how much you drink, you don't want to be 'that guy' that everyone talks about for weeks after the party because you vomited all over everyone .

Have a great night and let us know how it went afterwards.

Thanks for the advice Paulie_C. Feeling better and a lot more positive for it !