The Drama Triangle

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Looking for feedback on this issue of The Drama Triangle that I've recently come across though it isn't a new theory by any means.
I was curious if there are any of those on the forums that have ever felt that they were in a relationship that was affected by this. If they still find that they are susceptible to this kind of mind game and actively participate in any of the roles.

I know I've been a participate in this damaging cycle and I actively seek now to try and establish healthy relationships though it isn't always the easiest. I still get stuck in the mindset of wanting to "save someone" at times but I think the more aware I am of that behavior the more likely I'll be to avoid those situations.

So lemme know your thoughts on the matter either way.

Clickable links:
The Drama Triangle

The Roles of Victimhood

I agree, you can have healthier relationships. I'm working on it myself, and it's not easy, but I believe it can be done.

I had a recent incident with a friend and his ex-wife. They have a situation that doesn't involve me in any way. He wanted to spend the night with me so he could drive his ex-wife to take care of it the next day. She wanted me to drive her there so he wouldn't have to take her. In the past I was such a giver and felt I could save the world. I stepped back and realized I didn't cause this problem, so I should have no part in fixing it. I told him that clearly. I didn't tell her because she gets very angry and mouthy.

This is entirely different from a situation that doesn't inconvenience me, or a long-standing friend that really needs help. I'll gladly help where it's like a see-saw and they help back.

It is very scary and very empower to say No and stick to it. You can do it!

There are some people that can't be helped, exhibit a: highschool. I'm glad not to go through that again

I used to feel like I had to be the "Good guy" but I've learned from those situations as I was with in some when it came to feeling like I had to stick up for someone when being bullied in elementary school. I tend to avoid those situations as well, I just feel that drama doesn't exactly accomplish anything in the long term with certain relationships.