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How do people on this forum talk so much about things that are so personal to them?
Sorry, I realise this is a stupid topic... I just wanted to know as I was going to post something I wanted advice on/to talk about, but chickened out.

that is a good question... i talk a lot about... everything, really. i am like that in real life too, so i think it's not too much of an issue for me to take the leap and say stuff on here. probably it will come back and bite me in the butt someday, though.

If you post something personal, no one knows who you are anyways and what other people on here think about you won't affect your life at all. By talking about personal things on here you're not really opening up to anyone because no one on here knows your identity. I hardly ever talk about anything personal in real life, but I do it all the time on Wrongplanet. Don't worry about posting it. If it turns out badly you can always disappear from the forum, pretend it never happened, and it won't ever matter.

I am the same in real life mostly. I find that making a big deal out of your previous experiences only gives you weak points. Wear them like a badge and nobody can harm you. Treat them like horrible disgusting secrets and when people find out you get hurt.

Not a stupid topic. People are more willing to share personal thoughts if it is in an impersonal way, and if they are unknown. For example, xbox live. People will say a bunch of stupid crap and no one can do anything about it (luckily we have moderators).

I tend to dislike discussing personal things in real life. I know this is a problem area for me because I also tend to alienate people by doing this. I made a conscious decision to try and get over this dislike and try to make myself more comfortable discussing personal things, and I also figured doing it here first would make it easier for me as I started doing it a little bit in real life.

Basically, I do it here because I am uncomfortable with it and I'm trying to get over that.

Because one of the Aspie traits I have a love/hate relationship with is the fact that I have NO shame.

A lot of the time, I see them as value-neutral facts. The data of the situation as I see it. I have a really hard time remembering that NTs and others might not see them that way.

Question is, which one is stupid???

Talking/posting helps me analyze & sort things out & feel better. I don't really have anyone I can talk to offline & I never really had anyone. I feel a lot more comfortable online than offline around people

A nice part about sharing something personal to get feedback and advice is getting so many interesting points of view.
A bad part about that is having to reveal the stuff we prefer to keep secret.

It`s because I wont talk about these kinds of things in my ``neurotypical`` real life.

When I tell certain people certain things in person, I end up feeling more alienated than ever afterwards.. even if they say they understand.

Sometimes its nice to get a different perspective from people who one is not related to or has spent any time with..though its been kinda dead here the past couple days.