Should i trust my dad?

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Last night i was in the supermarket and met my dad there he was alone. I talked him to. Got Great News, The witch and him have seperated

I of course did not hide my feelings. He said i should be sympathetic as i was his dad and the witch was his precious wife. I said your my dad and if you were decent one you would have stood up for me and not let b***h treat the way she did. He tried to say it was my fault. I reminded him you were responsible. I asked him why the b***h and him are divorcing. He said theyre going through a rough patch. I said did she realise your not going to keep a lifestyle shes accustomed to, as the place where he works has shut down. He went quiet. That confirmed. I asked him where he was staying. He said with a friend. He asked if he could stay with me. I said you know who live with and she cant stand you. I said to him for years she was just using you for money . SHE TREATED MY LIKE s**t!! He finally admitted it. I teared into him about it. You let it away with murder. I DID GO OUT OF HER WAY TO ANNOY BECAUSE OF THE WAY SHE TREATED ME!! !! IF YOU WANTED TO BLAME ANYONE FOR ME DISTANCING MYSELF BLAME YOURSELF!! !! I eventuall calmed down.

I have him advice to stop her taking what assets she has. I told him to cancel credit cards, satellite, internet and to set up a seperate account. I also told him to stop her sending money to her angels. Hes known about this for years that she gives them money when she would say shes buying clothes or going to the salon. And if she comes for any tangible assets. destroy them or give them away or sell for knock down price. Ive told him if she comes near me, you better keep her away from me..

Are you really looking for advice this time or are you just ranting again?

im ranting and looking for advice. because hes always stuck up for the witch and spoiled her. Always sided with her. My instinct and mother are telling me to leave him. Well my mothers saying is too crude for the forum. So should i trust him and stop her from getting what little assets he has left? Of course if he does want into my life hell have to stop sticking up for her and stick up for me if i ever meet that witch again

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Even if he is trustworthy it's gonna take you quite a while for you to trust him. Both of you have to recognize that. Also, seperation is different than divorce so be aware of the possibility of them getting back together again. How set in his ways is your dad?

I really have to applaud you for standing up for yourself and confronting your parents. Divorce and seperation are NEVER the fault of a child.

He is a very stubborn man. However he is staying with one of his mates. They might get back together but if dad is still poor. I know the stepmother too well for her to do something else

Dad was a lorry driver so he was earning way more than minimum wage would earn in a year. He wasnt rich but enough to go on holiday, pay off her debts, let the witch and her angels get expensive things they couldnt have gotten other wise. She found out hes jobless now. So she went mad and threw him out. He is staying with his mate now. When I was at their house i made it very clear to him she just with you for your money. Now he knows that she was. I told her she will only go back to him for money. Hes got savings and a small villa in spain. Ive told him to protect himself by getting a solicitor who they used for buying the villa. Ive told to go to her about the divorce. She is a brilliant lawyer and if you get there first they cant represent the witch as a conflict of interest and the witch will have to go looking for a lawyer on legal aid.

Ive told him if he wants to stop her getting her hands on his savings. I told him to use it to pay off his credit card debts. cant touch money if its not there. Ive told him to void the will and put the villa in a trust with for his brothers and sisters and will pass to their kids when they die. And make a trust for any assets for when he dies that goes to charity or the family just not her. Trusts are far harder to dispute than a will. He was very reluctant and said i wanted this. Yes dad i want you to realize shes not perfect and i dont want the witch to live a lifestyle shes accustomed to. He asked how i know this. I learned if from reading forums about wicked stepchildren, how kids can dispute mums will leaving everything to husband, legal questions posted on the internet to lawyers. Ive been waiting for years for this to happen. I told him the lawyer will go out to mediation and will spends weeks arguing over who should get what.

The look on the witches face when she finds out will be priceless

me and my dad have a rocky relationship aswell. mostley because he abandoned me and my sisters so its nothing we ever did.
So i'm out here in california trying to help out as much as I can because appraently he cant get his life together

if we dont ever become close thats alright. i'll try anything once, and if it doesnt work out i'll move on to something else

Im helping him so she doesnt get her own way and can be put in her place along with the stepsiblings. My dad is well aware and ive told him i dont care about his money well i do in the sense that she wont be getting it

Ive told him to go out on the pull for women start dating take up a hobby get a dog. Im not interested in spending time with him like that because of all the times he went on holiday without me and let the witch and her brats exclude me. Ive told him that and if he keeps saying im spoilt brat. ill just remind of him what his wife was like

aspie ashley what made you say what you said about your parents?

My parents do mean things to me, but what they do is much more subtle than using echother for money. I've mentioned it elsewhere on Wrong Planet, but they basically challenge everything I say no matter what I say or how much sense it makes. (I live at home.) Every time I express a thought, an idea, human emotion, etc., they tell me why I shouldn't be that way. And they gang up on me much the same way your dad and stepmom do--they band together to hurt me--and then defend echother's behavior.

I will always have a soft spot for young people who are either feeling opressed by adults in authority or being ganged up on by such. It's like they just don't listen to their kids.

I joined Wrong Planet in hopes of meeting others dealing with similar situations, and being able to have a mutual sharing and understanding, but I've been quite disapointed by the number of users here who don't understand. Or they have the attitude that one should "let go" and stop feeling angry.

No, it was mostly my stepmother, my dad didnt do anything to stop it. I did the things i said in my first thread. She made me twisted and evil. They wont be ganging up on me now. The witch is moving in with her mum and she lives miles away in scotland. My dad cant travel that far to go see her. So now shell just be taking the things in the house and selling them. She cant afford to live in the house on her own. She wont going after the villa or his savings as she doesnt have the money for a lawyer. so theyll be getting a divorce quielty

Ah well, life goes on.

Have you tried annoying them but do it an a way that wont make them think your doing it to annoy them? some humourous ways

being a neat freak who obsessively cleans. vaccuum at 6.30am in the morning when theyre asleep. when youve finished your lunch and when theyr eating theirs. Moan at them to hang up coats when they get home. Insist on you doing their laundry being done at certain times of the week on schedule and say sunday. Keep the detergent away from them until sunday. Insist on only using brands for cleaning. Lecture them about cleanliness. Using vinegar for disinfectant when washing the benches in the kitchen that drove my dad mad Make a fuss over small things like them leaving a sock on the floor, leaving towel in the bathroom after shower. at first if your so obsessively clean it would be nice but after a day or two it will get annoying.

If parents proceed to lecture you on something like your so lucky you have to have central heating or to have food in the fridge. agree with them. Take it on board but in a different extreme way. Yes say that they are lucky as well. Be charitable with food take packaged food like tins, packaged foods that they like potato chips or whatever to the food shelter. or when in the supermarket insist on the cheapest foods be bought for what they want to eat.

Use what you know to annoy them but be careful they dont hit you harm you or throw you out. Though if you hate them then your probaly expecting that. Are you a man?

Ha! Nothing annoys parents quite like being woken up at night! I don't vaccuum because certain noises bother me but I wake them up with other loud noises most nights. Usually I play the weather channel on the TV really loud, scream, etc. (No loud music because I have a very low tolerance for music, even quiet music.) A lot of the other annoyances you mentioned I can't do because I'm holed up in a bedroom all day most days. But I can picture someone vaccuuming all the time and laugh.

heres a brilliant one id love to try, be clingy needy jealous!! ! If your in your room most of the time, then call them constantly,sends loads of emails after they reply to you. ask when are you home, when will you see them, who are they with, why are you ignoring me????????
when is work finished?

Thats just of the things you can to be clingy and needy. if you step out of your room pick a parent and hug them hard. say that they will always be yours and no one else can have you. do it in front of the other parent or make sure they hear and if you have siblings do it front of them as well. if they feel the parents favours you more that will cause jealousy and resentment. ring them and email them continually especially if they are doing something with the other kid like basketball always interrupt them. Put up photos of you and the favourite parent in your room but do loads of it. put up pictures of the family but block out the other family members faces and put a cut out of your face on the other parents face. make sure the family sees it regularly. If you go out with the family hold their hand and make sure the other parent can. if you need help or advice go the favourite parent make sure the other parent will know about it. Invite the parent into your room for advice or help whatever. if your with the parent dont let anyone of your family near him, if they want to hug them hug him first or want attention of any kind do what you can to stop getting it. If you do this a lot. the parent will not want to be bothered by other kids or spouse. The rest of the family will feel pushed out and will hate you. theyll resent you and the other parent it will probaly stop them ganging up on you as they will be divided.

That will drive the parents mad. they will probaly do the united front thing that parents do and quacks say they should so dont be rebellious or break rules but do that the united front will weaken it could take a while but will drive them mad