School still sucks

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Had my son's annual IEP meeting, and while its necessary to have them I so want to just phone it in. Start off with a noisy school with random bells ringing. Get crowded in a small room with eight other people to talk about how to keep my son on track concerning his Aspergers. The one or two horrified looks when they realize the participating parent can barely make eye contact, and is having to do her damnedest to keep up with the talking points because they aren't following along with the included paperwork.
The goal of the meeting was to help my son learn to prioritize his schoolwork, and to help him learn more constructive ways to deal with frustration/anger. Very laudable goals, but I wish I could go through a meeting without feeling completely "disabled".

And I thought I hated IEP meetings....

I'm not on the spectrum, and I have hated these meetings for years.

Can you make the simple request ahead of time to have the meeting in a room with space, and not so close to noise?

The last time we went to our IEP meeting, it was the first time we happened to be put in a room where the noise level was lower than I've ever experienced. It was great. I'm SURE they have rooms like this -- they probably just didn't think about it being necessary.

I'm with ya -- I hate IEP meetings too.

That's an idea, but I don't think there's a whole lot they can do by way of accommodations. We live in a rural area, so the middle and high school are combined and strapped for space/resources.
I'll just grin and bear it once a year, and vent online a bit. At least I'm not the only one who dreads school functions.

Would you feel more comfortable participating over the phone?

If you tell them you can only participate by telephone, I believe they are legally required to accommodate this request.

If they make a structure they should follow the damn thing. Could ask that they write down the key points on a piece of paper and just talk about those.

Hopefully they don't try to break him into acting completely non-aspergian...good way of breaking individuality, something schools are good for.

His school system has been pretty good with him. My son has a tendency to ignore his schoolwork completely when he gets caught up in a special interest, and the goal is to have him use his interest as a reward for getting the other tedious stuff done. It's an important balance to learn, so I am in support of it.
As for the structure of the meetings, that one just seemed to be much more disorganized. I think they had threw the paperwork together at the last minute. That's what killed me, on top of the usual sensory issues.