Those diagnosed late in life -- PLEASE help

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I'm struggling to cope and would really like to talk to people who have managed to get on with things as an adult. Anyone who is not on disability please pm me.... I'm trying so very hard to make a go of it for real and not fall back on disability.... any advice or words of encouragement GREATLY appreciated.... I'm always considering killing myself so I am not a burden on the few people who have chosen to stick around for me.... it's so hard on them, so hard on me...

I am so lonely and scared, don't be bothered by me if I pm you right back, I'm not good with knowing when or how often to reply/communicate.

I PM'd you and, since I'm not sure I'll be able to give great advice, am bumping this thread, so maybe some other folks will reply, too.

Thank you, and upon re-reading it, it's really too vague for people to help me... maybe someone could post a link or two of their favorite website that cheers them up or offers coping strategies.

Mods, can this be moved to Adult issues (even though it may get buried in the sex talk lol)

My diagnosis was a positive change for me. It made me feel less alone because I now know that I'm not some strange freak - there are lots of other people going through the same things and facing similar challenges.
To move forward with your life, I would suggest not taking on more than you can handle. Set reasonable goals and take one step at a time.
I think you can make a go of things even if you are on disability - it's there for a reason. Since I've been on it, I've been able to get back to work (part time.)

I am grateful for your advice Ann2011, and I am working hard on not taking on more than I can handle but unfortunately I can't handle very much. What's a good idea of a reasonable goal for someone about to graduate college and return to work full-time? I'm buried in student loan debt and have been financially dependent (they call them loans, and I do borrow and pay back lump sums) on my parents, should I just lean harder and swallow my pride?

I'm also hoping this diagnosis will convince my parents that my problems are not due to character or lack of motivation.

kirayng, you mentioned that you're about to graduate college...

Only about 25-30% of people in the United States will ever accomplish this.

And you have.

My advice to you is this... Don't mistake a roadblock for a dead end.

Try to not feel too alone though i have to admit to same feelings as an Adult Aspie. Most of the local groups are big support groups untill you hit 21 then its hell. State autism society told me today that they get 4 calls average from adults seeking help. the adult autism community is growing almost exponentially fast now but sadly at least for me any adult support other then state autism group is not there at all. So Aspies are out in the cold sadly particularly if you are alone and don't have support group. I cry almost every day now because i cant find a thing so age 59 and i am very alone.

I can't handle very much either. If you can, you should consider staying with your parents until you get settled in a job. To move out on your own and start a new job at the same time would be a huge stress. There's nothing wrong with accepting help.

To Dreamslost, I feel for you. There are no support groups where I am either and sometimes I feel so isolated. I would love to meet some real live aspies!