My life is a mess

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Two years ago I was a professional earning a decent wage and living independently. Now I have no job, no money, and I live with my mother. I am 42 years old.

I have got no idea what I can say to a potential employer about why I have not worked for 2 years. I think my career is over and I have a hatred of the workplace and the people you meet there (especially HR).

I want to find a decent job again, and live independently. But in Britain there is a severe housing shortage because the rich people want to make money from property and so have created this huge demand and so prices rise.

I haven’t got a clue what I can do to get out of this situation.

Start a business if you can then you'll always have a way to fill the gaps in your resume.
If that isn't an option get involved with some kind of charitable work since it will give you something to put on your resume; then at least you'll keep yourself busy and might meet people that can give you a job.
Don't lose hope... this is all temporary... just keep working towards your eventual success every day. Make it your job to prepare for your new job.

What kind of field were you in previously? If it was something people do freelance, could you explain your gap in employment history by saying you spent some time freelancing?

Or, is the family member you are living with elderly or does she have medical problems? My brother explained a 2-year period of unemployment by telling his current boss that he took time off from work to be a live-in caregiver/nurse's aid for my ailing grandfather before he passed away. (This was partly true, since he did live with with my grandfather and help him out a lot, but partly just because he spent two years chasing his dream of being a bass-player in a rock band before deciding to get a day job).

I spent 10 years as a software developer. I could say I was freelancing but they will want proof. I hate the idea of lieing about a sick relative.

It's a little easier if you start a business; I've never had a company question it.