Mother Doesn't Get It

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I told my mother why I don't think I can handle this country right now [the police are corrupt, they've been given a lot of power in spite of this, the people here are either stupid, misinformed, uninformed, informed without the ability to interpret information, people with disabilities [like Asperger's] are more likely to be murdered, especially by their parents] and she responded with the following:

1. Most people are good. [Yeah, BS.]
2. When your child keeps you up for three days, you lock yourself in the bathroom because you want to throw the baby against the wall and you can't throw the baby against the wall because you'll go to jail. [Apparently Mom thinks murdering your child or wanting to murder your child is normal.]
3. People aren't stupid. [LOL.]
4. People tend to help each other. [BULLLLLLLLSHIT.]
5. Did you tell your teacher that kids are bullying you?
6. What do you mean you want to stay with Grandma on Friday? We were going to go to the museum!

I can't handle this, I've been feeling suicidal for the past three months, and I think I've already said that my dad is worse than my mother in terms of being understanding in another thread.

My mom doesn't realize that being on the spectrum kind of f***s you over if other people in positions of power [say, employment] find out. Example, an autistic guy nearby tried to get a job at Bally's Total Fitness or whatever it is. He was told he wasn't qualified, but not why he wasn't 'qualified.' He committed suicide, via train.

Mom: "There are requirements for working at BALLY'S?!"
Me: "Yeah. You have to not be autistic."

I can't say I blame him.

Oh my, it sounds like your mom is kinda dumb. I won't say all people are bad, but a lot are. I know things are tough right now, but the important thing is to hang on. Even though life seems extremely bleak right now, you never know when it can get better. I got my job by going to a job fair. I didn't want to go, because I was convinced that no one would give me chance, that I was unemployable. I had dropped out of college and was really depressed, and felt that I would never find a steady job. I drove down to the place, and the only reason I went in was so I wouldn't have to lie to my mom when I said I found nothing. Well, I met a guy willing to give me a chance, next day I went to an interview and a couple weeks later (background check) I was employed, and I've been working since then.

The point is, is that I began that day thinking I would still be miserable at the end, but my life changed that day. It was that sudden. And even though it might not seem like it, I think the same can happen for you. It might be tomorrow or next week, maybe it might take a full year. You might have to leave the country. But it IS possible.

Look pal,

Alot of people with autistm are extremly successful and employable. It may have been behavior based as oppossed to diagnosis based. It may be completly unrelated to autism. Just try your best with social skills and grooming, cleaning, etc. and you shoudl be fine.

I think we might have the same mother.

There's that whole five in six statistic that says most struggle to get employed. I'm not as worried about it [I assume publishers are less discriminatory], except I remember my older brother who has asperger's and is higher on the spectrum than I am had a lot of trouble getting a job as a teenager; the only job he actually got was working at my Grandpa's law office, filing papers, so I'm only worried about getting a job NOW so I have money in the bank, and if I don't get a normal job then I have relatives I can pester [for work, not for money].

Also, the one guy was high functioning, had no speech impediments. He just told the person interviewer that he had autism.

It seems the story of the Bally's guy has you really upset. While it is tragic, there has to have been more to it. I doubt he went from completely fine to suicidal by being refused a job at Bally's because of autism (at least I hope not). Who knows what other issues he was dealing with. Might have been enough to make an NT person snap. But I would worry less about your brother because he at least has you.

Me three! I don't know what it is about parents! They can do anything to us except POSSIBLY intentionally kill us without going to jail and the adults think that's just fine! You mentioned this in at least two other threads. You tell the truth about the world...and you don't have to let your parents stop or brainwash you.

I'll give you my mum, she's a pessimist, for one.