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It seems that every time I have family and friends. No1 really share or tell me their instincts of what they have been through and what's happening in their life. I can see all the dishonesty from them telling me different stories and 'don't want to tell me truth' kind of stuff to me. For example, this lesbian friend told me last semester she does not really get drunk that often, even sexual hook ups with the girls and party on. But what I have observed on her Facebook wall and her friends has seen that she does it. Not sure what is an honesty? Other people including my family does that to me.

I tell you what, I do not exist. Everything what in life is making me like a baby. Whose are for having fun for once in their life? People these days in this crappy society is focusing on highest achieving social skills, drunken moments, out of control moments, discrimination in people like against me, strictness comfort level on people who are nice or not. This is BS. I tried to be nice for anything as possible. It kept pushing me away too far for getting nothing in return, or being told honestly or just don't care and do things.

Why everything push me away when I'm attempting it clearly?

Why I am talking to myself here?

From what I've observed, people tend not to be honest with anybody else. They portray themselves different to each person in the attempt to make each person they encounter believe that they are the person that said person wants them to be.
Of course, people also have the tendency to dehumanize anyone who is not very similar to them. This may explain a lot of their distance from you.
Don't take their idiosyncrasies personally: people are weird and typically not all that kindred. I hope that you find comfort and peace and that companionship will come your way.

It depends largely on how you react to things. I was acquainted with a young man with Aspergers whom people would refrain from sharing personal details with. The reason was that he would blurt these details inappropriately, much to the chagrin of the person who whoever confided in him.
Not saying this is necessarily the case with you, but an example. Perhaps you don't respond in a way that people want, and thus, they shut you out? Not saying that's fair either, but it's life, sadly.

I haven't really intend to say things or whatever that is inappropriate at all. I'm more of open and relaxed kind of person like to share with people socially and stuff. There are quite few people say I am nice guy to them, but their response with it they would not be my friend.

Is it something wrong with this? Dishonesty still I assuming...

People do not happen to befriend everyone who they deem to be "nice." Being a kind person an being "friendship material" are not mutually inclusive.
What "friendship material" consists of is a bit beyond my scope of understand; from what I have observed, however, people typically befriend people who they deem to be entertaining, positive, beneficial to their own interests, and a lot of unknown variables.
I wish you the best of luck in acquiring the connections that you seek.

If you see the person mood can change a lot over small certain of time. For me its difficult to express him or her facial expressions. I had this amazing trip with american exchange girl over Easter. Went to scenery area, sky rail, train rides, snorkelling in Great Barrier Reef. We shared a room with separated beds at hostel, that is called a twin room.

So what got me confused over the entire trip that I can see and feel the guiltiness of her attitude towards me. Sometimes she feel frustrated or make a laugh as if she could not hear what I said properly and as well I could not hear her as well since I'm hearing impaired. I never seen her happy, as I mean fully happy like saying being excited for entire trip. I never heard any significant politenesses from her on whole time, being conservative about things, no signs of positivism/excitement and all of that. Not sure if there something wrong, but she was with me all the time, never said a bad word about me or the trip at all.

I lack of understanding of her, she told me she would get angry if I told her that I am having difficulty understanding her. Most of the time since we met at beginning of the semester of her study abroad here she seem VERY individualized. As I mean that she is always do not share with people. I hate seeing people being so strongly individualized because there no concurrent of excitement from her. But I am excited, happy and being polite. Especially for entire trip over Easter.

I had another american exchange girl last semester, in similar manner she was completely opposite. We had 12 days road trip, went to my place for few nights before heading back home. Entire time, she is happy, exciting, talkative, always being honest, letting each others know whats going on and all of that. We shared a room as well, tours together and everything under similar fortunate as what I have this semester with different american exchanger girl.

Ok I am not trying to compare, but does this seem that both are distinctive in their way of attitude or paradigm? Is the one now is still a friend? She still talk to me and that these days but does not really make excitement and all of that.....