It's unfair.

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I feel that I was born not to be loved and not to love.

It's so unfair.

Yes, love yourself. No one will ever understand you the way you understand you. You're in the best position to love the real you.

Someone once told me he thought we were in this world to learn to love, that in the next world we would be loved. I don't know if that's true, but the learning to love part I can deal with, and then we'll see. Part of learning to love is learning to love oneself.

Yes, I know all too well how you feel. It took me many years, but I finally figured out that I am the best friend I will ever have. Who understands me better than anyone else?--I do! Who doesn't dump on me the way others do? Me! Who doesn't hassle me the way others do? Me! Granted, I sometimes have recriminations, or I will criticize myself, but never the hateful, mean, and angry way that others do. And never in the constant nagging way that others do. This is most of why I prefer being a hermit, and I am lucky enough to live alone. Many of us on the spectrum are not so fortunate.

Just remember--no matter how bad things are with other people, you are your own best friend, and always will be. You can't block yourself from yourself, as you can the calls, visits, and emails of other people. You understand you, even though no one else around you does. We here at WP also understand, and are your friends, too, and we don't expect you to behave in some unattainable version of normal. Be yourself. We are your support group.

I find my pets are also great at providing me some unconditional love that I really need. I do my best to return it in kind. My personal journals help me too, journals that no one else reads. They're a sanctuary, a haven.