Aspies & Death

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I think I've posted this like five times on other accounts, but I just can't get closure. I definitely have been grieving for my dad for six years non-stop, but I can't forgive myself for never getting close to him. Maybe he had AS too, cause he was anti-social. Is it normal for people with AS to hold onto the past longer than NTs, or aspies just like okay you died so what I have a computer???

It's normal for me.

I've lost a number of valued people, and I will never let them go.

I usually get over death pretty fast but then again I haven't had too many deaths happen in my life. Now holding on to the past is something that I have and I wish I didn't. Thinking about the past makes me sad sometimes.

I would see a therapist who specializes in grief counseling. If you can't find one in the phone book, many funeral parlors have lists of them and also some offer it free of charge to the families. It's been six years but you could call the funeral parlor you used for him and ask if they offer grief counseling and explain that while it has been six years, you really need it and they may give you a few free sessions.

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I'm giving it another shot. We will see.
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My dad died 21 years back. I still sometimes address him in present tense than past. Both my mom and brother are past it, but i still remember it. I dont grieve for him i.e. i dont cry for him or keep on thinking about him. But i know that there is a part of my life that is empty as he is not there. It does not help that he was essentially the only person in my life that i was at peace with. He also had traits like me and i did not have to work for my relationship with him at all.

I think i have held on to him longer than my family because they are not rigid by nature. They can change easily. For me it is not that way. There are things that i did with him and although i have tried doing those things recently, they are not fun as he is missing.

Actually i dont even get death in many ways. For me the person just exists somewhere i can reach, if it makes sense.