I can't handle anymore...

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Ever since my girlfriend broke up with me a little over a month ago I've just been losing it... I still love her and want her back so bad but she doesn't even want to hear from me... All I want is her back... And then I have my whole issues with my family who I know care about me but they aren't very understanding of any of my issues or depression and act like I just can just "snap out of it" or stop "being depressed or weird", most of my friend are either really bad influences on me or aren't able to hang out very much so i don't really have people to hang out with, and it's hard to see my therapist because It's so damn hard to get rides and I always forget to make appointments... And like I'm trying to get over my ex but it's like no matter what I do she's always in my head... She was my best friend... And like I had planned to go to school but I f****d up and now I can't go this coming fall semester because all the classes are already full up so I have to wait for the whole next semester, and it's almost impossible to get a job, i apply for like 5 a week and just have no f*****g luck... And thee are days where I'm feeling better and am not so depressed but even then I still can't stop thinking about her and all the other stressers right now... And then there are most days where I'm like this and just barely even functional because i'm so depressed... I'm not suicidal or anything because i'm too terrified of death to go through with it but I just am so damn depressed and don't know how to handle it...

You need to find things to do to keep yourself occupied and distracted.

- Exercise. It generates mood boosting endorphins.

- Read funny stories and watch funny shows. Humor also generates endorphins.

- Eat healthy and enough of it. That will improve your overall health, and don't skimp on the amount of healthy food. People who starve themselves tend to be tired, cranky, depressed, and are more prone to getting sick. Also, the skeleton look is hideous.

- Get some rest. Being tired will also lead to being cranky, depressed, and more prone to getting sick.

- Volunteer. There are people out there worse off than we are, who would really appreciate the help, and it's also a good way to meet people and boost your mood and self image.

- Have you considered online courses? Some of them are free. Also, have you considered a vocational school? They can give you practical training in work that is in demand.

- How about self employment?
>> Lawn mowing/yard work/gardening
>> Handyman
>> Errands/shopping service
>> House/pet sit
>> House cleaning
# There are a number of other types of self employment. Give it some thought. #

- Take up a hobby or join a club. This is a good way to meet people who share your interests.

- Get involved with community activities. Attend town meetings, go to events at local libraries or at organizations in town. Go to sporting events, local art shows, local fairs, and farmer's markets/flea markets. Attend and/or participate in local theater groups.

As you can see, you have a lot of options. Or you can wallow in your own misery. The choice is yours.

For the record, my life is far from perfect, and I have had chronic depression most of my life, but I do what I can to keep myself occupied and distracted, and it does help a lot. I've had my wallow moments, and found it's a good idea to let it run for a few minutes, and then change the "channel." Letting it run for a few minutes allows the bad feelings a chance to vent, but letting it go on too long is unhealthy and draining.

I suggest you get off your misery kick and find something else to do. You will feel better sooner if you do. Now go and get busy.

I agree with Questor.

Just make a plan of all the things you will do and start doing it. I generally make a list of tasks especially when i am down. I also listen to music i really like or read stuff that makes me happy.